Introduction
This interesting scripture says that "He who finds a wife finds a good thing and receives favour from the LORD". That means it is the duty of the man to seek, look and find his wife. The woman is to go about her life, work or business well nurtured in righteousness and holiness.
If she is ready to get married, she should also show forth those qualities that men are looking for in a wife. Characters live with boldness, love, humility, submission, and patience. A woman who is ready for marriage should also manifest faith in God, godly wisdom, understanding and maturity. These four qualities are very important for the success of your marriage.
Your hope and trust should be in God, while you happily work out your marriage and ensure the Word of God is obeyed in your house. You will make up your mind from the beginning that as a wife, you will humble yourself and submit to your husband so that the plan of God for your marriage will be established. If a woman becomes successful and rich, it does not exempt her from submitting to her husband. It, therefore, follows that a woman should marry a man she loves, and she is willing to submit to, in accordance with the scriptures - Ref: Proverbs 18:22
1. The man you are praying that God should bring your way will not magically appear before you at the altar. You have to position yourself to be found. If you are praying for a God-fearing man and every day you are in the club, you will hardly meet a God-fearing man at the club.
2. Remember, if being single is not pleasing to you, it is not pleasing to your God also. So you have to plan and order yourself aright for marriage.
3. God has asked men to find their own wives by themselves. So, you have to be found.
4. You need to show your love for God and the things of God if you desire a godly man.
6. One of the strongest fear of young men is getting married to a lady that will not submit to them after the marriage.
7. Another strong point is marrying a domineering wife, who will compete with the man rather than supporting and helping him.
8. For godly men, their strongest fear is marrying a woman who will not have respect for the word of God and what it says about marriage. Marriage is ordained by God and guided by Doctrines and ordinances.
9. A woman should be feminine, soft and tender. But now, some sisters are looking so strong, energetic and physical.......factors that scare young men from ladies.
Being in the Right Place: - When you are ready for marriage, then accept that you are too old to be playing the hide and seek game. What does this mean?
The best place for your husband to find you is in the service of the Lord. In the place of service, a lot of things turn around for you according to God's promises.
It is at the moment that you are serving God and his people that you will be in the right place at the right time to be found.
Repair damaged relationships: You are a child of God. Take every step to repair the damaged relationships in the workplace, and recover your integrity spoilt by any office relationship, disagreements or any other attitude that gave people the wrong impression about you. Make friends with all and sundry and let them know you are not available for adultery or any fornication.
Join a bible believing church if you don’t belong to any and commit yourself in one or two groups in the church. Discover your purpose in life and pursue it. Get firmly committed to the things of God, be friendly with all persons you meet in the house of God, giving respect to whom respect is due. Show love and respect to all your colleagues, and people big or small. Don’t choose who to respect and who not to respect.
Do not despise anybody and keep an open mind and be approachable. Get wisdom and knowledge on how to relate well with people of all categories. If you hope to marry a Politician or a successful man, you must know how to relate to people of different classes.
Love the Lord and His Word: - Love and obey the Word of God and practice whatever you understand in the bible. As you do this, you will begin to hate everything contrary to the word of God and that is a great revival entering your soul. As a result, you will also begin to have hatred for sin (open and secret sins).
Begin to pray for a godly husband - The Lord will direct the steps of your husband unto you from wherever he may be. Continue in prayer until he manifests. When he does, please ask God if he is the one you have been praying for. Do this even if he meets all the requirements you have listed in your diary.
Guard your heart. (Proverbs 4:23) - STOP watching sexually strong reality TV videos, going to clubs, love-sex songs, pornography etc. Don’t you know that those things you see and hear plant seeds in your heart? When the evil seed germinates and is seeking expression, you will start wondering where the pressure is coming from. It is from the inside of you, the result of wrong consumption or exposure. Destroy every toxic material in your possession.
Carry your body in Honour: - Decide early enough to carry your body in honour as the bible advised you in Romans 12:1. It is one of the signs that you are ready to drop your spinster jacket, the toga of a bad girl and move to the next level of your life - settle down with a man and raise worthy children.
Keep Godly friends - If you keep wrong friends, one day they will teach you what they are doing and you will join them. If you keep a prostitute as a friend, one day she will teach you how to prostitute. Keep only profitable friends, remove your name from the list of “sweet ladies” mistress of men with money, and become a lady of substance with rich inner beauty and grace.
Put God first: The truth is that if God is not the first person in your life, your life as a child of God will never be colourful. Spend quality time daily on the word, applying what you learned to your daily life and praying in faith. Pray for the kind of man you can love and cope with. Spend quality time with God daily and meditate on things that will please God. Think of holiness, soul-winning, righteousness etc. The devil will come to tell you that your answer is delayed or will not come, shout him down!
You are Special: You are not a car that any man can drive. There is somebody somewhere that is created for you and that will willingly love and appreciate you as you are. Never seek to change your looks so you can look like someone else. Your better half is somewhere and only God can tell you where he is, that's why you ought to pray to God that God will direct his steps to you. Don't think that anybody can marry you...NO, you are wrong. There is a man you cannot cope with even for 6 months because he is not meant for you.
CHARACTER
Your Character will be tested: - Build your character on the word of God. Your beauty may attract men to you, but it is your character, attitude, and friendliness that will endear you to people. When you walk straight and your stance is known on issues, you are simply saying 'this is who I am and people will take note of it.
Do not be known with only outward beauty and worldly wisdom. Let your godly qualities manifest out for people to see. The eloquence of speech and all kinds of worldly ways of life will not make you attractive to a godly man. Sisters should de-emphasize their beauty and outward appearance and develop biblical virtuous and characters that make a Christian lady the toast of all men - Love, forgiveness, care, hard work, humility, and submissive attitude. They say whatever a man can do, a woman can do also, but I counsel ladies, in whatever you are doing, don't let your feminine nature of care and compassion leave you.
If you have a consistent lifestyle, even your colleagues could recommend you to their relatives for marriage and your journey to the isles becomes easy. I have seen it severally, but you must be upright and good. You must be a lady, full of good characters for other believers to recommend you to their relatives for marriage.
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A believer's life is in stages - you have the born-again stage, the spiritual training stage, the test and practical experience stages, the choices stage, Maturity, and the growth stage. But God has a way of doing His things and everyone must not pass through the stages in the same order. Some people have passed through tough experiences in life before God rescued them and once they become born again, having decided to serve God alone zoom into the growth stage and God sustains them.
A sister that wants to marry a believer should be transformed by the Word of God, and know the meaning of Patience, Love and Submission, before the brother shows up. This knowledge will help her in making the right choice of a brother to marry. You should marry a man you love, whom you are willing to submit to and be faithful to. Without submission, the couple will hardly flow together in the spirit.
If both of you are not together in the spirit, you cannot walk together successfully in physical. Marrying a sister or brother who is not in tandem with you in the spirit will surely bring setbacks. Marriage is good, but certain mistakes could derail your destiny and spell doom for the marriage.
Marriage is not just good, and honourable, it is also an important part of your Christian walk. Marriage helps you achieve many things in life. It is through marriage that God gives you a husband or wife, that should be your best friend. He or she is a gift, you should treasure and devote yourself to, he or she is your own!
Once, I asked God why there are many unmarried sisters in the church and what I interpreted the answer I got to mean is that many of them are not born again. God said, no lady who is born again and prays for marriage from her heart, will remain single. So, be born again, physically and spiritually ready for marriage and then pray for a godly man from your heart.
The first thing a lady waiting for Godly marriage should do is to give her heart to God in true repentance and make up her mind to follow Christ all the way through before and after marriage. Decide to serve God and do His work with zeal and with the gifts He has bestowed on you. Live in obedience and in absolute love for God and His work.
Purity is important for Christians. Rebekah lived a chaste life. And so did Mary, the mother of our Lord Jesus. God has not changed His stand on holiness. During engagement or after traditional and court weddings,
Learn to discipline yourself on many things in life. There is a time to say No to the wrong advice from friends, and a time to say no to a bad attitude. If you marry a believer without Christian virtues inside of you, then you must build them up, or else that marriage will surely have problems. The world and worldly people tolerate nonsense, which many believers cannot tolerate.
Christian marriage is the best for you because it helps you fulfil your destiny as a woman, but you have to know God, Love Him and serve His Son Jesus Christ, our hope from the time you committed your life unto Him until you leave this world. Christian marriage gives you peace of mind and you know that whenever you die, you will meet the Lord in glory.
Remain blessed in the Lord
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