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God ordained marriage and provided Adam his wife, a helpmate.  The simple reason is that God loves man and wants him to flourish.  God saw that Adam was lonely and created Eve, his wife a companion, helpmate and helper of destiny.  A close friend and confidant to navigate life with.

Marriage is a trust relationship,  The trust being that the relationship that graduated into marriage is one that should be respected and honoured by the couples.  The vows made is primarily to bind the man and woman, that they become one in the spirit and act in uniform physically.  It is bonding that makes the man love and care for his wife above everyone else, including his mother and father.  It is a life long relationship of trust and oneness that makes the couples to act in the best interest of each other and their union.

It is expected to be a union of joy and happiness that forbids any of them to think evil against the other.  A relationship where you prefer your spouse and defend her, protect her and stand with her throughout life.  In return, she humbly submits to the husband and loves him and their children, taking care of them like a mother will take care of her children.

Several years later, marriage has been reduced to mere living together of a man and woman.  Some couples are just managing to stay together, the love and happiness that marriage brings has departed from them, but due to society and family concerns, they have remained together.  


All the struggles that people face in marriage today are a result of disobedience to the rules and ordinances of Marriage established by God in the Bible.  Marriage is a spiritual and physical arrangement.  If you fail the spiritual test of two becoming one in the spirit, you cannot enjoy a smooth and loving marriage in the physical.

There are still wonderful marriages even today, where the man and the woman have joined hands and resources to build their love and trust for each other above their friends, money, relatives and other third parties.  That is what God expects and wherever God sees such couples, He blesses them with everything they need to be good parents to their children and example to others desiring good marriage.

This Confession and other marriage stories that we will be bringing to readers is purely for edification and learning.  The Confession of Mr Simi Johnson, real name covered

Mr.  Simi Johnson met Grace at an event, he says:

Before we parted company, I managed to convince her to give me her mobile phone number on the basis that we were in the same industry and it is always good to network. Hesitantly, she gave me. That was a loophole I would later exploit.

After our initial meeting at that workshop, we kept in touch through text messages and I restrained myself from sending any messages that were out of line. I was warned that if that were the case, my number would join her growing list of blocked numbers. I resorted to sending general messages on friendship, advice, and some interesting developments about our industry to keep the communication lines open and remain relevant. 

Meanwhile, I kept looking for that one opportunity which would open the floodgates for me. I waited and waited. It was agony during that waiting period. I was not used to this kind of waiting. But I reckoned Grace was well worth the wait. Finally, the opportunity opened up.

One Saturday afternoon whilst I was at the farm, I received a text message from Grace, asking me to call her. This had never happened. I called her and to my surprise, she was crying. I gently asked her if I could go over and see her and she accepted. I had mixed emotions about the issue. On the one hand, I was happy I would finally be able to see her, on the other hand, sad because she was crying.

Within an hour I was by her gate patiently waiting for her to come out. When she did come out, it was a sight to behold except this time she was in tears. She said she just needed to talk to someone who could understand her, and on that day, that someone turned out to be me. I reckoned a good place for us to have our chat was a quiet lodge in Avondale that I knew well from my experience. We headed off for the lodge and within 20 minutes we were there.

As we engaged in conversation, Grace opened up as to why she was crying. She explained that she was distraught and torn apart when one of her cousins confided in her that her fiancĂ© had impregnated two ladies and asked one of them to abort. The weird part was that the one who asked to abort was the one narrating the story to Grace. 

She went on to show Grace the exchange of messages between herself and Grace's fiancé including the mobile money transfer to carry out the operation at some Chinese Clinic. Grace was devasted and inconsolable.

This was a man she had dated and trusted for four years. Having no pass turned out to be a disappointment. It appears to me that the words I had told her at our first meeting had come back to haunt her; men will always be men.

As I listened to this dazzling beauty queen pour her heart out, I had an epiphany, a moment of sudden realization. Was this the moment I had been waiting for? That moment when prey is mortally wounded and the predator seizes the opportunity. Grace was emotionally wounded, absolutely distraught by the turn of events. She had hit rock bottom and was at her weakest point. 

The hunter instinct in me was suddenly invoked. The animal in me was saying – go for the kill, another part was begging me to contain myself. For a brief while, I struggled to contain my emotions and was conflicted. Whilst, on one hand, I was providing a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on, on the other hand, Grace was there for the taking.

I convinced Grace that it would be better if she could lay down somewhere comfortable, like a bed. But instead of taking her back to her place, where she clearly did not want to go, I proceeded to book a room at the lodge. Grace had taken more drinks than she could handle. I suspect it was the first time she had been disappointed in such a manner and she didn’t know how to handle it.

When we got to the room, she threw herself on the double bed to nap. This was the moment Uncle Simi was waiting for. I quickly rushed to the bar and got a packet of condoms. On my way back, I started thinking about what Grace would think of me once the effects of alcohol had worn off. Somehow, I had a change of heart and came to the conclusion that I had more to gain from this situation by not taking advantage of Grace. I wanted Grace for keeps, there was a Gift-shaped hole in me that had to be filled.

With that in mind, I went back to the room and Grace was fast asleep, the excess alcohol had clearly taken its toll on her. I stood by the bed feeling so powerful yet helpless at the same time. There was still a small part of me telling me to go for it but I resisted. To distract my mind from this stunning beauty queen I had in my midst, I turned on the Television and proceeded to watch a football match.

After about two-three hours, Grace woke up wondering where she was and what had transpired. She was visibly shaken and ashamed at how she found herself in a room with Uncle Simi. I simply smiled at her and assured her that she was in safe hands. She requested that I take her home as it was now getting late. I did just that.

The following morning, I received a text message from Grace which read “Hello Uncle Sims, thanks for being there for me yesterday, maybe someday I will return the favour”. I simply responded by saying, “You are welcome to my friend”. For some strange reason, I felt good about myself. The motive to turn Grace into my side chick was still alive, the only difference was how I would go about it this time around.

With each passing day, our friendship grew and we were frequently communicating. In one of our conversations, Grace spoke glowingly about how much she trusted me after realizing I hadn’t taken advantage of her on that day. I assured her that it was nothing and the thought of taking advantage of her state never even crossed my mind. 

I had won her over as a guy who could be trusted but I wanted more. I still needed to take advantage of that trust before some other guy took her off the market. This friendship we were enjoying needed to be transformed into a relationship.

One Sunday afternoon, I called Grace and reminded her of what she had said about letting her know if I ever needed a favour. I told her I was now in need of one. She said that was not a problem. I headed over to her place to pick her up. It was time. Time to return the favour. 


Friends, Jesus is coming soon.  It is the loving-kindness of God that He has kept you alive till now.  So, give Him praises and receive His Son, Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour of your life.

Today is the day of salvation, tomorrow may be late!

Say this simple prayer: 

Heavenly Father, I come to You in the name of Jesus Christ.

I believe Jesus died for my sins and rose again for my justification. I repent of my sins and ask for forgiveness. I ask Jesus to come into my heart and reign as my Lord and Saviour.   


I receive Him by faith and I am born again.


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