ARE YOU FEELING LONELY?
Introduction
Loneliness has become a major social problem of this age. A lot of people have become victims of the evils of loneliness. Loneliness can swiftly drive an individual into a state of depression while the latter can cause a man to take silly decisions.
It would interest you to know that an individual can be in the midst of a multitude and yet still feel lonely. Loneliness is not the absence of people; it is the inability of an individual to find companionship in the midst of people.
And once an individual feels lonely, depression is not far from a person. Loneliness touches almost every person at one time or the other. In loneliness, there is a vacuum created in the heart of the person feeling lonely.
Human beings were created with a desire to be loved and belong. We receive affection and love through our relationships with family, friends, co-workers and others. But, when that need for affection and fellowship goes unfulfilled, that's when the person becomes restless, unhappy...and lonely.
There are many people in marriage today, living with their spouses, and yet lonely. That happens when one of the party feel betrayed by the other, especially in the case of infidelity, when the man or woman confirms the other person is cheating on him or her. The aggrieved partner is emotionally devastated, not knowing what to do, or why the other partner is cheating on him/her. Afterwards, he/she withdraws from the cheating partner and loneliness sets in. Infidelity is a killer of marriage!
Loneliness has become a major social problem of this age. A lot of people have become victims of the evils of loneliness. Loneliness can swiftly drive an individual into a state of depression while the latter can cause a man to take silly decisions.
It would interest you to know that an individual can be in the midst of a multitude and yet still feel lonely. Loneliness is not the absence of people; it is the inability of an individual to find companionship in the midst of people.
And once an individual feels lonely, depression is not far from a person. Loneliness touches almost every person at one time or the other. In loneliness, there is a vacuum created in the heart of the person feeling lonely.
Human beings were created with a desire to be loved and belong. We receive affection and love through our relationships with family, friends, co-workers and others. But, when that need for affection and fellowship goes unfulfilled, that's when the person becomes restless, unhappy...and lonely.
There are many people in marriage today, living with their spouses, and yet lonely. That happens when one of the party feel betrayed by the other, especially in the case of infidelity, when the man or woman confirms the other person is cheating on him or her. The aggrieved partner is emotionally devastated, not knowing what to do, or why the other partner is cheating on him/her. Afterwards, he/she withdraws from the cheating partner and loneliness sets in. Infidelity is a killer of marriage!
Loneliness rob people of sleep, causing emotional devastation, which make people restless, especially when the incident happened suddenly. Loneliness can happen in the office, school or in marriage.
There are many reasons why people suddenly find themselves lonely. There are a variety of personal factors and other circumstances that can sometimes short-circuit our ability to connect with others. If you are struggling with loneliness, you're not alone. I encourage you to focus on the Lord and invite Him to help you, you will be glad in the end.
The nature of Loneliness
Loneliness has a spirit behind it and it does not just happen. There are signs you will see and know that in the months and years to come if you did not take some steps, you may be lonely.
When you discover that you are not making new friends, meeting new people at work and other places; When you are disconnecting from one social group without entering into another group, it can be in the church or places of work and business, these are signs that loneliness is coming.
With loneliness comes stagnation in different areas of life. A person can be stagnant without being lonely, but a person cannot be lonely without being stagnant. People will relocate from one place to another for job and business and even marriage, but there are major dislocations you must manage well if you want to remain happy.
These major dislocations include:
1. Loss of loved one - Death
2. Loss of a spouse
3. The threat of divorce or eventual divorce
4. Relationship break
5. When a child of God, a young boy or girl losses his father or mother
When any of these happen, you should realize that something fundamental has happened to you and that things may never be the same, at least for sometimes. These are occasions in your life that require divine direction and wise counsel to manage, if the pain associated will be reduced or removed entirely.
Spirits Behind
There is a spirit behind loneliness that makes it a serious case. Many people are never able to overcome loneliness until they die. Depending on the person, an introvert by nature keeps few friends and such friends are people around him at work and/or home.
If the arrow of loneliness is fired into such a person's life and he/she is disconnected from his close contacts, he becomes lonely immediately and he cannot easily make new friends, so he could become a loner without help from anywhere.
One of the greatest dangers of loneliness is the lack of people to help you. When you are disconnected from your job, some friends will leave you after some time, except you get another job. When your Factory or Shop catches fire, your suppliers and customers will go elsewhere. Doors are closing and you need to address them quickly.
When you are disconnected from good friends, the role they play in your life will be lacking unless you can cover-up very well. Many Nigerians travel abroad easily because they have relatives there that give them accommodation and feeding. When a man is lonely, he or she will lack favour. If you don't know, "Favour is life" says the scriptures.
The spirit of loneliness is a spirit that makes people stagnant. It works with other spirits to effectively make a person "A Loner'. To be a loner in the world where no man can be an island is not good.
When you pray for help from God, He will use people around you and sometimes strangers. So, when you discover that you find it difficult to make new friends or retain the old friends you have, know for sure that loneliness is coming.
Spirits and forces behind Loneliness
4. Spirit of Unforgiveness
5. Spirit of Error
6. Spirit of Rejection
7. Spirit of Bitterness
8. Evil spiritual smell (Aura)
9. Curses placed on the person by envious friends
10. Curses placed on a person by wicked people he/she offended
11. Inherited curses from his/her parents
12. Witchcraft projection of garment of rejection
13. Witchcraft burial of the person's glory
14. Evil strongman or woman assigned against the person to hinder him
15. Projection of spirit of loneliness on a person.
Types of Loneliness
There is no easy case of loneliness. Loneliness should be discovered and treated without delay. A lonely person needs the company of friendly people around him/her for encouragement. That is why it is important for us to ask after our relatives and friends.
Some friends can walk away and you will not worry, but there are some events that will occur in your life, and you should take wise steps to remedy the effect. A person without favour must rise up and contend with forces trying to kill him slowly.
Types of Loneliness:
There are various types of lonely situations categorized as follows:
1. Traditional loneliness
2. Post-breakup loneliness
3. Widow and Widower loneliness
4. Loneliness with friends
5. Parent/Guardian/Caregiver loneliness
6. Marital loneliness - Loneliness in Marriage
7. Delayed marriage loneliness
8. Office loneliness
9. Relationship loneliness
Loneliness has a spirit behind it and it does not just happen. There are signs you will see and know that in the months and years to come if you did not take some steps, you may be lonely.
When you discover that you are not making new friends, meeting new people at work and other places; When you are disconnecting from one social group without entering into another group, it can be in the church or places of work and business, these are signs that loneliness is coming.
With loneliness comes stagnation in different areas of life. A person can be stagnant without being lonely, but a person cannot be lonely without being stagnant. People will relocate from one place to another for job and business and even marriage, but there are major dislocations you must manage well if you want to remain happy.
These major dislocations include:
1. Loss of loved one - Death
2. Loss of a spouse
3. The threat of divorce or eventual divorce
4. Relationship break
5. When a child of God, a young boy or girl losses his father or mother
When any of these happen, you should realize that something fundamental has happened to you and that things may never be the same, at least for sometimes. These are occasions in your life that require divine direction and wise counsel to manage, if the pain associated will be reduced or removed entirely.
Spirits Behind
There is a spirit behind loneliness that makes it a serious case. Many people are never able to overcome loneliness until they die. Depending on the person, an introvert by nature keeps few friends and such friends are people around him at work and/or home.
If the arrow of loneliness is fired into such a person's life and he/she is disconnected from his close contacts, he becomes lonely immediately and he cannot easily make new friends, so he could become a loner without help from anywhere.
One of the greatest dangers of loneliness is the lack of people to help you. When you are disconnected from your job, some friends will leave you after some time, except you get another job. When your Factory or Shop catches fire, your suppliers and customers will go elsewhere. Doors are closing and you need to address them quickly.
When you are disconnected from good friends, the role they play in your life will be lacking unless you can cover-up very well. Many Nigerians travel abroad easily because they have relatives there that give them accommodation and feeding. When a man is lonely, he or she will lack favour. If you don't know, "Favour is life" says the scriptures.
The spirit of loneliness is a spirit that makes people stagnant. It works with other spirits to effectively make a person "A Loner'. To be a loner in the world where no man can be an island is not good.
When you pray for help from God, He will use people around you and sometimes strangers. So, when you discover that you find it difficult to make new friends or retain the old friends you have, know for sure that loneliness is coming.
Spirits and forces behind Loneliness
1. Spirit of Loneliness itself
2. Spirit of hatred
3. Spirit of Pride4. Spirit of Unforgiveness
5. Spirit of Error
6. Spirit of Rejection
7. Spirit of Bitterness
8. Evil spiritual smell (Aura)
9. Curses placed on the person by envious friends
10. Curses placed on a person by wicked people he/she offended
11. Inherited curses from his/her parents
12. Witchcraft projection of garment of rejection
13. Witchcraft burial of the person's glory
14. Evil strongman or woman assigned against the person to hinder him
15. Projection of spirit of loneliness on a person.
Loneliness hurts, but it can be fixed. Perhaps you have become insecure about meeting new people due to past disappointments, you can come out of it. It is
important to identify the kind of loneliness a person is experiencing, so that targeted prayers can be made for quick recovery.
Types of Loneliness
Some friends can walk away and you will not worry, but there are some events that will occur in your life, and you should take wise steps to remedy the effect. A person without favour must rise up and contend with forces trying to kill him slowly.
Types of Loneliness:
There are various types of lonely situations categorized as follows:
1. Traditional loneliness
2. Post-breakup loneliness
3. Widow and Widower loneliness
4. Loneliness with friends
5. Parent/Guardian/Caregiver loneliness
6. Marital loneliness - Loneliness in Marriage
7. Delayed marriage loneliness
8. Office loneliness
9. Relationship loneliness
Steps to Solution
Depending on the type of loneliness one is experiencing, some steps can be taken to help the person handle it. These steps include:
Depending on the type of loneliness one is experiencing, some steps can be taken to help the person handle it. These steps include:
1. Admit the Problem - And seek solution without engaging in self-pity. When you acknowledge the vacum created by the sudden death or moving away of someone in your life, you can intentionally take steps to remedy the situation. It is when you acknowledge you are lonely, that solution will appear.
2. Believe what God says about you. Believe what the bible says about you, and don’t listen to the lies the world tells you. Don’t listen to the lies you tell yourself. Believe that you will come pout of the lonely condition with great joy as a believer.
3. Draw close to the Lord. How do you draw close to Jesus? Here are some ways: Read Scripture and think on it. Asking God for biblical wisdom and apply it to your life. Listen to praise music.
4. Accept what you cannot change - The death of a spouse, a relocation away from old friends, are situations we cannot control, so we need wisdom to handle them. Remember that God can use transitions in our lives to open doors to new experiences, but we must be willing to let go of the past and move on.
5. Learn to accommodate people: You have to identify why you are lonely and address it. As you are doing that, you are praying for God's help. Whenever loneliness becomes an issue, the person lonely must change his or her ways to accommodate more people into their lives.
6. Be ready to make necessary changes: If people are running away from you, find out why? Do you lie, deceive people or cheat them, you have to change your ways. Are you too jovial? You crack all manner of jokes and matured people are scared of your lifestyle and the young ones are not your equals, you have to change.
7. Be friendly and kind: People who are lonely must learn how to make new friends, especially at church. The easiest way to make a friend in the church is to find someone with your kind of calling and walk together in groups and bond together with your group members.
8. Look out for a new friend. Be open and objective, try and overcome shyness and rejection by going with someone in your category or class, someone with your type of passion etc. Look for someone with whom you share a common interest.
Prayer of Restoration:
Heavenly Father, I come before You in Jesus' name.
Father, thank You for seeing everything that is going on in my life. Thank You for always for your mercy and taking care of me.
I know You have a good plan for my life, as You have promised, all things will work together for my good because I love You and am called according to Your purpose.
Father, Holy and righteous God, You see what's going on in my life. You see the loneliness I am experiencing, all the efforts I have made for new job, business and get back to my good friends.
Father, I need your mercy and help. I need you to send good friends, destiny helpers and a good Samaritan to help me. Lord, send me help from the sanctuary, let me see your goodness on earth in Jesus name.
As I pray in the name of Jesus Christ, let there be a turn around in my life and situation.
Prayers Points:
1. Thank You, Father, for answering the prayers I am saying now in Jesus name
2. I bind the spirit of loneliness troubling my life in Jesus name.
3. Every arrow of rejection fired against my life, backfire in Jesus name
4. Every sacrifice made against my marriage and my peace catch fire and be destroyed.
5. Every power enforcing loneliness on you, be uprooted by the fire of God in Jesus name.
CONCLUSION
Friends, Jesus is coming soon. If you have not yet received Him as Lord and Saviour, I plead with you to do it now. If you are ready to surrender your heart to Christ, say this prayer:
Heavenly Father, I come before You in Jesus' name.
Father, thank You for seeing everything that is going on in my life. Thank You for always for your mercy and taking care of me.
I know You have a good plan for my life, as You have promised, all things will work together for my good because I love You and am called according to Your purpose.
Father, Holy and righteous God, You see what's going on in my life. You see the loneliness I am experiencing, all the efforts I have made for new job, business and get back to my good friends.
Father, I need your mercy and help. I need you to send good friends, destiny helpers and a good Samaritan to help me. Lord, send me help from the sanctuary, let me see your goodness on earth in Jesus name.
As I pray in the name of Jesus Christ, let there be a turn around in my life and situation.
Prayers Points:
1. Thank You, Father, for answering the prayers I am saying now in Jesus name
2. I bind the spirit of loneliness troubling my life in Jesus name.
3. Every arrow of rejection fired against my life, backfire in Jesus name
4. Every sacrifice made against my marriage and my peace catch fire and be destroyed.
5. Every power enforcing loneliness on you, be uprooted by the fire of God in Jesus name.
Friends, Jesus is coming soon. If you have not yet received Him as Lord and Saviour, I plead with you to do it now. If you are ready to surrender your heart to Christ, say this prayer:
Heavenly Father, I come to You in the name of Jesus Christ.
I believe that Jesus died for my sins and rose again for my justification. I repent of my sins and ask for forgiveness. I ask Jesus to come into my heart and reign as my Lord and Saviour. I receive Him by faith, I am born again!
FIRE...
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