It is often said that destiny discovery comes before marriage, so that you can have an idea of the kind of activities you will be doing and the kind of help mate you need.

If you have discovered your calling or profession, your future spouse having known you profession or calling would imagine what kind of a man or woman you may likely me, and be able to know whether that's the plan or woman to 'put-up' with.  

Your destiny as a child of God begins with Christ, the day you received Him as your Lord and Saviour.  Another thing that has the capacity to help or destroy your destiny is the spouse you marry.  So, if you are born again and spirit-filled, you are likely to avoid marrying a wrong woman as your wife.

What is more serious is that not knowing Christ before marriage could lead to marrying a wrong spouse, an unbeliever or someone in darkness.  Many people marry men and women who are spiritual giants, when they are spiritual ants, that is a ticket to spiritual and physical bondage.  

There is no good person

When it comes to who to marry, there is no good person, there are god fearing people and those who are in darkness and tools in the hand of the devil to kill, steal and destroy.  Marrying a wrong person is a destiny disaster that can swallow even a glorious destiny.  If you marry an enemy of Christ like occultists, witches and wizards, you have enrolled yourself into long-term bondage.  Your life is also in danger.

If you are not born again when you get married, there are chances that you are marrying a lady spiritually higher than you.  They will never show you their true colours yet.  They may be in love with you and supportive at home, but the moment you are determined to serve the Lord and make heaven at last, then she will show you her true colours.  

That is why facial beauty, long legs and fine shape are secondary requirement for marriage.  The primary consideration is the spirit inside the man or woman.  Is the spirit controlling her from God or Satan?  It is for the purpose of knowing someone personally that courtship is recommended before marriage.  

During courtship, you are expected to closely monitor the behaviours of your future spouse and be sure you can cope with him or her, as you may never be able to change any of his/her bad behaviours.

You are expected to ask the Holy Spirit, to reveal who the brother or sister is in the spirit. You should know his or her spiritual status, who they are in the spirit because if you are spiritually compatible, it is likely you will also be physically compatible. 

The test of spiritual compatibility is one of the keys to joy later in the marriage.  But, if a Christian marries a brother or sister without knowing them in the spirit, you can be manipulated to marry a beautiful and innocent-looking daughters of Satan.  

You cannot marry a girl with mermaid and witchcraft spirit and think serving the Lord will be easy.  These are the foot soldiers of Satan whose business is primarily to weaken the children of God.  So, Believers should pray and engage the Holy Spirit when choosing who to marry.

Eternity in Heaven is the Ultimate

Life may be sweet now, and the guy or girl is good looking smart, but eternity in heaven is the more important than temporal good life.  If having your name in the book of life is important to you, please make sure you are spiritually compatible.  

Going ahead with a spiritually incompatible spouse will result in a long wilderness journey.  Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal the spiritual state of your would-be inlaws also.  Its important to know who your inlaws are in the spirit, because a Lion will always give birth to a Lion.  But, to concluding that a girl or boy is good for marriage without knowing their parents is a disaster waiting to happen.

If you marry a brother or sister, whose parents are strong in witchcraft and occultism, get ready for spiritual battle.  The moment you are ready to fulfil your God-given destiny, they will all rise against you and resist resist you to your face, using your spouse as their point of contact.

A brother was on Holiday to Nigeria from UK when he met a young and charming 'Sister in Christ'.  A Youth Corper when they met.  Boom she reported the matter to her parents, and friends in the coven, and before you know what is happening, the holiday in Nigeria has turned to a marriage trip.

He married the sister and guess what, after the marriage, the UK Embassy refused him Visa several times, and all efforts to renew his Visa failed.  He struggled to get a South African Visa with the hope to return from there to the UK, but it did not work.  He was arrested in SA and deported back to Nigeria, and that was the end of his overseas sojourn till today.

What happened? The pretty, innocent-looking girl was a spiritual giant, while the brother was a spiritual dwarf.  You should endeavour to know the spiritual state of anyone you intend to marry, as well as his or her parents, after all, the bible says we know no man by the flesh.  If you marry the son or daughter of Satan, no matter the love he/she profess to you, Serpent will bite you in the end.

Choosing wisely could mean that:
1. You should identify lazy people and avoid them.  Proverbs 24:30-34 says "I went by the field of the lazy man, and by the vineyard of the man devoid of understanding; and there it was, all overgrown with thorns; its surface was covered with nettles; its stone wall was broken down.  When I saw it, I considered it well; I looked on it and received instruction: A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest; so shall  poverty come.

2. Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? - 2 Corinthians 6:14-15

3. Remember to ask from God - Matthew 7:7 says: Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.

4. Engage the help of the Holy Spirit and do not rely on your own wisdom alone.  Proverbs 3:5-6 says: Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.

What to do NOW, or before marriage

1.  Give your heart to Jesus Christ and receive Him as your Lord and Saviour.

2. Spend time to meditate on the word of God every day and obey what it says.

3. Be transformed by the Word you are studying and endeavour to live holy and righteous.

4. Make it a habit to pray daily.  Share your life, thoughts and expectations with God, your Father and ask Him to give you follow Christ and obey His commands

5. Focus on the things of God and service Him with your talent, skill and resources in a local assembly.

6. Get baptized by Water and the Holy Spirit and let the Word of God dwell richly in you.

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Scriptures and Prayers for Godly Spouse

1. O' Lord your word says “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”  Prayer: Show me my helpmate in Jesus name.

2. Father, Your word says a good and excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar. 
Prayer: O' Lord show me a virtuous woman for marriage in Jesus name - Proverbs 31:10-31

3. Father, your Word says: Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior - Ephesians 5:22-33. 
Prayer:  O' Lord, show me a submissive woman for marriage in Jesus name.

4. O' Lord, Your word says that wives should respect their husbands and the men should love their wives as themselves.  Ephesians 5:33. 
Prayer: O' Lord show me a woman that will love and respect me in Jesus name.

5. O' Lord, your word says the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. Prayer: O' Lord show me a woman that love and fears You for marriage in Jesus name.

6. Father, Your word says if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.  Prayer: O' Lord give me wisdom, knowledge and strength to provide for my family in Jesus name - 1 Timothy 5:8

7. Father, Your word says that love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.  Love never fails - 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Prayer: O' Lord, give me the wisdom and humility to love my spouse according to your word.  


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