MARRIAGE QUIZ.........Assess your loving kindness, godly capacity and maturity!

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Mindset for godly marriage!


INTRODUCTION:

Many women get married without any real preparation, except that they met a man they are in love with, and the man is ready for marriage.  So, instead of saying, please give me time to complete the Master's program I am currently running, or let's even have a courtship for six months, so we can understand each other before concluding the marriage, many ladies will accept the proposal, hoping they will be able to fix, whatever needs to be fixed.


So, you get into the marriage without knowing important members of the man's family, whether they are believers or not, whether they believe in one-man-one-wife, which the bible preaches. 

There are other things a woman needs to know before marriage.  A lot of them include how to relate with people of different age and social status, how to exhibit patience in the face of provocation.  How to relate to elderly people, and how to handle naughty elders.  Humility before God and man, how to submit to her husband and remain faithful.

You will agree with me that most of these issues are maturity issues, home upbringing and virtues of believing born again Christian. This marriage quiz will highlight some hard questions, many of which are real questions to test your level of preparedness.


Love in Christian Marriage

God is love, and certainly His word, the bible is the best source of information on how to love.  His word shows us His Will and purposes concerning marriage, and as I look into the Scriptures to see what the Lord considers important in the love relationship between a man and his wife, I hope the information will be beneficial to you.

God has good plans for man, to give us a life to enjoy to the full, so He designed marriage to be one of such great experiences of life.  He asked the man to separate from his parents and be joined in love with his wife in a new home, different from that of their parents. So that the two, the man and his wife will become one flesh. 

The Lord issued a warning that what He (God) has joined together, let no one separate.” That means that the friends and relatives of a married couple should allow them to resolve their issues among themselves.  It also means that people of God, men, and women that fear God, should support and assist young couples to survive and succeed and not do anything that could divide them.  

1. Discover each other's Need

Love is important for the peace and progress of the home, but the young people in marriage need time to understand themselves, their respective duties and obligations under marriage.  Love in marriage is developed and nurtured with time.  The people involved, discovering for themselves how to help each other, which areas their spouse need their support, and what to do.  They will discover each person's strengths and weaknesses and learn over time, how to provide motivation and assistance, where necessary.

God wants the couple to be separated from their parents, so they have time to learn and understand themselves. Love in marriage should be sacrificial, established on trust, with personal commitments that should not be broken.

The Lord ordained that "Wives, should submit to their own husbands so that there will be order in the home.  God also holds the man responsible for what happens in the marriage.  We saw it in the case of Adam and Eve. Though Eve ate the apple first, her eyes did not open until Adam ate his own, and their eyes opened together. 

2. The Wife is the 'heart' of the Husband
The husband is not just the head of the home, he is the head of the wife, in a matrimonial arrangement between the man, his wife, and the Lord. Submission is a key issue in marriage, that ladies and women should understand.  Daughters of Zion should never have a problem submitting to a godly husband.  This is because a godly man can never hurt his wife or think evil towards her. 

A godly man fears the Lord and walks according to the Word.  He sees the wife as a gift from God, as Eve was to Adam, his own flesh.  This is why in almost every godly home, I know about, the wife is the 'heart' of the man. If you want to know what the man is thinking about, ask his wife.  Whatever the woman tells you will be 99% of what the man would answer you if you were to ask him directly.  Marriages like this still exist to date!

Godly men, do not play with their wives or anything concerning them, and as they advance in life, they become inseparable. No money, property or child can come in-between them.  They are servants of God, and they know Him. Lust and pleasure are the main causes of divorce that people are experiencing, but whosoever will organize his marriage according to the Word of God, will be exempted from the strange fire of anger, bitterness, and divorce.

3. Your dressing remains godly
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, is a command, and not a piece of advice.  Men that fear God understand this command, but worldly men cannot comprehend it.  This is why when a daughter of Zion gets married, everything about her changes, including her dressing and appearance.  

She continues to dress to please God and her husband, and not to impress neighbours, friends or colleagues.  All the dressing to show your legs, shooting-out your body is not for a child of God.  These are the behaviours of the world, through which Satan pollutes the environment and ignites the flames of lust on the people.

4. No Alcohol
Drinking alcohol is not for you, sisters and daughters of God, because of what it can cause you.  Alcohol drinking can cause a lot of trouble for women because when you are drunk, you can forget yourself, and people can take advantage of you.  Even as a Spinster, alcohol is a red flag for any single lady.  No matter how much you have mastered yourself, one day, the devil could disgrace the person through alcohol.  Let it be far from you.

5. No Cheating - Infidelity
If a godly man discovers you are not faithful, it will take a long time before the love will return as of the old.  These men made personal vows before the Lord to be holy and faithful in marriage, long before they meet the lady, so they hate to share their wives with another man.  If you permit such an error, the trust built for years can be completely destroyed and depending on his maturity level, he may never trust anything you say or do.

4. Be one in the Spirit
If you marry a believer, who fears the Lord, both of you will agree on things because you are both looking in the same direction.  But if one of the couples is an unbeliever, the benefits of the two being one in the scripture may be lost.  There will be a divergence of opinion on key areas like holiness, righteousness, fear of the Lord and even love for God.  What you consider as holiness and thus very important may mean nothing to your spouse.  

For instance, some men particular about outward holiness, wearing Trouser, Tight clothes, make-ups, and jewellery, but the wife may not see them as any hindrance.  A lady sees nothing wrong with short skirts, while the husband considers short skirts and dresses as belonging to single ladies.  Young couples quarrel over a lot of issues until they understand their individual feelings.  For instance, some ladies think they are free with men and can mix without getting committed to any of them.  


Some ladies keep male friends, who are not their lovers.  But this attitude is not allowed in Christianity because, its a door, you are opening for the devil to tempt you and possibly destroy the home. Men generally, don't want another man around his wife and nothing can justify the move.  Once you are married, cut-off from male friends.  These are emotional issues that can heat-up the house.  They are also very important issues that set the foundation for the family and godliness at home.  If they are mishandled, you can be sure, the same issues will threaten the marriage in the future.  So, both couples should be one in the spirit and thus be looking in the same direction.

5. Don't decide marriage Alone

You should never decide the issue of marriage alone...NO! It is dangerous!  Get your closest brothers and sister in the Lord to help you.  Get your Pastor to help you.  Get your parents, especially if they are born again servants of God. Make sure you take the matter to the Holy Ghost. Invite Him into the matter, to reveal the identity of the person and show you the things to come concerning the marriage.

Try to know the family you are going into.  Your fiancee is not the only interested party in the marriage equation.  His or her parents are major stakeholders. Find out if they are born again? If they are living together and what they think about you and their child. 

Marriage is a serious destiny matter, that can determine how long the person lives after marriage, the God or gods the person will eventually serve, as well as the eternity that awaits the person.  The 'Marriage Junction' is a delicate junction where the devil lay ambush and waits for committed children of God to test them and cause them to pick a wrong person for a spouse.  I am praying for someone, that God will not allow a strange man or woman to deceive you.  

Choosing a Spouse is delicate
Children of God must understand that if you break the hedge of protection over your head, a serpent will bite.  Whoever marries a son or daughter of Satan, the serpent will bite him or her.  You need to consider all factors before agreeing to settle down with a person in matrimony.  Personally, I suggest that the man should also check the parents of the lady, and where they belong.  If they belong to dark societies, it is a sign, they may have initiated their daughter into the same society, waiting for a time to commission her.  Once they have been initiated her, they can also manipulate her easily.  

This is the junction, where some 'firebrand' Pastors marry the women sent from the water to 'Quench' his fire, without knowing.  What a tragedy.  This is the place in destiny, where 'well cooked' sons and daughters of Satan, with good education, beautiful and eloquent are packaged for careless men. Those careless Ministers, who say their faith will cover their would-be wives, usually end up in the 'belly' of the fish at the end.  

Let's involve the Holy Spirit

As it is for men, so there are men prepared to deceive the women and waste their years.  These young men and women are in our churches, in the office and market places.  They know who they are, and what assignment they are out to achieve, but unfortunately, many believers do not know this truth.  This is where innocent-looking ladies deceive and marry Ministers of the gospel in order to frustrate their ministry.  

Let's involve the Holy Ghost and patiently follow His leading, never decide marriage alone.  Marriage is a life long journey, you don't know what lies ahead, so let the Holy Ghost help you.

Strong character - Your Character will be tested - Build your character in the word of God.  Practice the Word and be established in good works of righteousness.  Develop virtuous characters like patience, fore-forbearance, humility, respect, and gentleness.  Acquire several vocational skills that will help you contribute to building the family.  Honesty and contentment should be your hallmark, as the Lord is able to bless you beyond your hard work.  

Be committed to whatever you believe and let people know your stance.  Don't live a double life.  Let your behaviour be the same at home, church and at the office.  Don't let your word fall to the ground, let your yes be yes!  Your beauty can attract men to you, but it is your character that will keep the right men around you.


Separate yourself from men’s jokes. Keep away from all filthy conversation and men’s joke, whether in the office or at home.  Return to the old part of a good girl your parents used to call you.  It is those same old quality behaviours that your would-be husband is expecting to see in you.

Your Money: Think not that your money will get you a good husband, even your beauty cannot.  All these are good, but will never get you a godly husband, except he is hungry and faithless, in which case, you will continue to feed him.  They could, however, get you a vegetable of a man, lazy and without any reasonable skill and competence; a man without a visible future.  
 
Drop your “Spinster jacket” and turn a new leaf of life. Live within your means and learn to plan your expenses in accordance with your income and be contented with the resources God has given you. Maybe you are used to receiving favours from men, you know that all such favour will dry up after marriage so that you will be left with your income and that from your husband.
This awareness will make you prudent in spending money and more responsible for actions. So, your desires will adjust and come to size with your income and what you do have you will not desire.

Join a bible believing church if you don’t belong to any and commit yourself in one or two groups in the church.  Discover your purpose in life and pursue it. 


MARRIAGE QUIZ

1. What is God's plan for marriage.............................................................

2. Why should the man leave his parents?.............When should he leave?......................... Can he retain his room in the house..........................

3If your friend calls to inform you, that she saw your husband with a lady in a Restaurant.  What will you do? Make a call to him?................., Send him a Text to return home at once?............or just wait for him to come home....................................................................................................

4. If a woman your husband prayed for, gives him a VIP car, what will you do? Take over the car................Demand to know the woman................or what...:
Explain:...................................................................................................

4a. What steps will you take to make sure your handsome husband does not fall into the hands of a strange woman and marry a second wife? Will you pray for him always................... Dress and makeup like worldly ladies...............or become his office Secretary/PA? Explain......................................................

5. You used your junior brother's name as Next of Kin in your employment form. What will you tell your husband, if he discovers?.................................

6. Your father-in-law is rich. The man has been praising you like a nice woman, a good wife to his son.  Suddenly he starts to transfer huge amounts into your bank acct.  What will you do?..................... Tell your husband. Warm him?......

...................or spend the money...............................................................

7. What will you do, if your husband gets home tired always?........................

8. If your boss gets funny and decides to offer you a Promotion or Overseas training course with estacodes if you can just hug and kiss him.  What will you do?............................................... Explain how you will handle it:...............

9. You receive a promotion letter with transfer to a foreign branch for two years (UK, Switzerland, Dallas, USA, Malaysia).  You have one week to choose which of these four branches, you prefer, but you will not go with your family. What will you do? Accept...............Decline................. Appeal?...........................

Explain what you will do:.........................................................................

What if your husband says NO? What will you do? Explain:..........................

10. Your mother-in-law says, that you are older than her son.  What will you say or do?  Curse her.............Abuse her...........or just pray for her to pass....................................................................................................? 


11. Your husband is comfortable and does not worry about your salary.  But, one day, he asks you to account for your salary for the last six months.  What will you do.................................Explain.................................................


12. what will you do, if your mother-in-law says you don't know how to cook? and insists that whenever she comes visiting, she will cook for her son...........
Explain....................................................................................................

13. What will you do when you have a hot disagreement with your husband, which resulted in name-calling.  And in your confusion, you called your father, who now asked you to leave the foolish husband and return to his house. What will you do? Explain:................................................................................

14.  After a stressful night vigil, you return home to meet the house locked, and your husband says you should go back to your church.  What will you do?........................................................................................................

15. Your brother-in-law living in the States, where you stay anytime you are in America, have started paying Dollars into your account, without your husband knowing. What will you do? Explain......................................................

16. A widow keeps coming to your house for supplies, what will you do?....................................................................................................
17. An elderly church member calls you her daughter every time.  What will you say to her or do? Explain........................................................................

18. Recently, a handsome man you met did not tell you, he has two children from his house at home.  He has proposed to marry you with the assurance that he would divorce his first wife.  What will you tell him? Explain...................................................................................................

19. What did you tell the Rich guy that proposed you for marriage, when he told you he has 5 children already? You will pray about it, Where are his wives or what?..................................Explain...........................................................

20. What will you tell the friend you met on the internet, who proposes to marry you, without knowing you or your family.................He is asking for your picture and other personal information about you. Explain..............................

21. What will you do, when your husband claimed to be born again before marriage, says he is no more born again? Will you report him to your Pastor, his mother or start warfare prayers? Explain...................................................................

These questions are meant to prepare your mind for some of the naughty temptations that come up in marriage. If you need our answers, send us mail, otherwise, you may keep your answers, and look into your bible and dig out the reasonable answer to these questions and continue to pray for godly men. Don't settle for less. The Lord will give you what you ask for.


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