LOVING YOUR WIFE IS:..........Supporting her at Home and if you don't know - She will teach you!

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WOMEN AT HOME

• Very powerful, though they are called weaker sex
• Controls at least 60% of all decisions indirectly
• A woman that submits to her husband will enjoy her marriage
• Should not be the head, else the children will have no father role  model.
• A woman that competes with the husband will soon look 'outside'
• The worst women for a believer is a woman in darkness - A marine agent etc.

Introduction

“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her…” is an instruction in Ephesians 5:25. But the reality is that so many do not understand what love your wife means.  This is because some men do not even remember that their wives are already part of them, neither do some know that their wives could influence almost everything that will happen to them ater marriage.  I your house is peaceful, your best as the husband, father and businessman is about to manifest.  But if you are experiencing troubles, fight and bitterness, the opposite will be the case.

The bible calls women the weaker sex, yet they control the Men in almost all generations and races.  The wife is the chief Controlling Officer at home, the husband cannot ignore, though he may be the President or Governor.  At home, the woman seem to reign and everyone complies with her opinion and sometimes suggestions.  She takes care of the family, gives instructions on how things are to be done in the absence of herself and husband.  Many of them cook the food and makes your bed, arrange the bedroom, chores, the average man is never prepared to do.

The good thing about this attitude of women is that if she is happy, she does all these with joy and gladness of heart.  She is ever ready to catch some fun in the midst of it all, to make herself happy.  So, while the men are dreaming of how to buy and own the 'world', while the women are busy thinking about how to tour the world and catch fun everywhere they go. They take life easy and generally stay connected to things that make life pleasurable.  They like outing, and trying new things.

Love after marriage
Falling in love is easy. - Staying in love is hard work. It takes deliberate effort to follow through on the vows we make on our wedding day. No matter how well prepared we think we are for marriage, we can only rely on the help of the Holy Ghost to guide us through it because marriage bring the unexpected all the time.  

This when things you never thought could happen, begins to show-up, right before your eyes.  When the things you dread so much surrounds you and you become confused. Most men are better prepared for the eventualities of marriage than the woman, except she is very experienced in the things of life.  The only way a Christian can enjoy his marriage is to love the wife as the bible has stated, more than yourself.

I know children needs love, but the wife need your love, more than the children.  The children expects you to feed, train and give them other basics of life, but your wife is expecting to have you, and watch this...even own you.  The children are looking outside, but your wife is looking inside.  This is why the wife expects you to support her, when the children are babies, youths and so on.  She expects you to help her with some of the house chores, especially when the children are babies.  If you allow her to keep the 'night vigil' alone, taking care of the baby, you are looking for her trouble, and she will get back at you.

Friends, whether your wife is a Bishop or Rev Sister, a woman is a woman - she want to see your tangible support at home, even if your money bought all the things at home.  so, men:

1. Love your wife more than yourself. Push your needs aside and instead of asking what she can do for you, ask, “What can I do for her?”. 

2.  Forgive your wives and show them affection and support them. If you paid her bride price and wedded her in the Church, what you should do it to attack the challenges you are facing with the Word of God and with prayers.  Believe that God will arise and fix the issues, no matter what they are.

3. Learn the lessons God is trying to teach you through that marriage situation and move on.


4. Love and fear of God can subdue any challenge you face in marriage.  Never regret marrying a woman because of troubles.  Troubles and challenges are part of life, you only need courage to face them, and with God on your side, success is yours.

What women enjoy doing:

 

They are helping out in the Kitchen - Senior men are not exempted


Love cannot be hidden, and women will not accept any lover, who does not support them in different ways and regularly.  The feeling is natural to them, and so, if you want to be a good husband, learn to give them a helping hands at home.  By nature, women are care givers, they are happy to cater for their husbands, children and their own parents etc.  They expect their husband to see when they need help and support them. 

This message is not about women's sexuality, but how they are, and the little things that matters to women.  I have carefully avoided the bedroom aspect, because every man should know that it is their responsibility to make sure they are 'strong', to avoid frustration and related issues.

The men can continue to think and worry about life, while the women just go on enjoying their moments with funny, crazy and sometimes unthinkable desires and games. They have mastered the diplomacy to subtly and tactfully 'arrest' and control men, without exception.

Controlling men:

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One of their upper most desires is to have a man under their control, emotionally and if possible physically.  If you do not respect, and do the bidding of your wife, the marriage will soon end.  They want to be given all the attention in the house and always.  There are domestic issues, you do not interfere with her decisions.  You have to take her decision in those areas and allow her to flourish in her house.  I hope you know the Mansion of a house, which you are proud of is her house.

Help them to Look elegant always - so their wardrobes is never full!

The woman cares so much about their appearance and hitting the right fashion rhythm all the time. They also like to show their natural beauty for people to admire and for single women, they spend most of their years trying to look good all-day-long.  The husband is expected to compliment her every now and then, and as Believers correct her at times.  It does take anything for them to stroll away from their exalted position of wife and mother.  Fashion and other things they see could make them desire and actually buy clothes meant for singles.  The husband must correct her sharply.  You have to discourage anything that is not worthy enough or a her to wear.  Working class women buy their clothes anytime, but they have to be conscious of who they are, when changing their wardrobes.

Seduction:

When a husband becomes difficult to love, or begins to admire women outside, you should realize, you are looking for your wife's trouble.  If she thinks you are being deceived by what you see on the street, she will look for her 'old school' and other skimpy dress to wear.  No child of God should put his wife under pressure, that will make her consider the clothes she had abandoned for years, just to please the husband.  This is a pagan way of life, not Christians.

There are some naughty girls and wait for this...Naughty women also.

Would you please help me?

If you refuse to help her back the baby, then get ready for a fight later; you this difficult man, she will say in her heart! At this moment, all your requests to her are scrutinized thoroughly or rejected outright. 

 
This is a call to duty, you dare not refuse!

They love helping hands and I think every man should learn to help their wives.  It's a tonic they cannot explain how happy it makes them. Try writing your wife's project papers for her and see how she will return the affection.

Big Girls syndrome:

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The big girls sometimes forget themselves and raise their hands on their partners, lovers etc, even in the public.  This can happen when she is in absolute control of the man financially.

Show Girls:

Some of the women are 'show girls', age and status not withstanding.  A show girl will show it in her appearance.  They don't care how you describe their dressing - seductive, scanty - it's all your business.

Some women love to play pranks - The prank playing women live longer as they usually take life easy.  The fat women also, are known to take life easy, one step at a time and do less worrying and eventually live longer than their husbands and contemporaries.

Keys things to know about Marriage

A happy home, full of honour and respect prolong peoples lives.  It is a known fact, a good wife and peaceful home prolong life of the man, and a loving and caring husband brings out the best in a woman, helps her to live even longer.

The christian family and home should be that home.  The man is born again, and the wife also.  They should both pursue excellence in service to God to each other.  Where there is love, there is no quarrel.  Issues will come up and with honesty, wisdom and understanding it is resolved.  A godly couple should expect to see the glory of God manifesting in their marriage, after sometimes.  I mean that after they have understood themselves and the purposes and challenges of marriage, they should allow the light of Christ shine forth in their lives and family. The glory of God begins to manifest in a marriage when the couple live to please God.

Love sacrificially

Remember that love is action  and speech, love cannot be hidden.  God expects us to love like Himself.  The way He loved us is the standard of God, love your wife as Christ loved the church and gave His life for her.  You may have prophetic grace, understands all mysteries, knowledge.  You may have faith that can move any mountain, but if you cannot show love to your wife and other, you are nothing. If you give away all you have, and if you deliver up your body to be burned, but have not love, you gain nothing. Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful.

You are to love your spouse passionately and earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.  Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love.  May the God of endurance and encouragement grant you to live in such harmony with one another, in accord with Christ Jesus.

Your body is no longer your own

In marriage, the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. 

Conclusion:

Let me conclude that there is nothing wrong with all these desires when you are married and it is done with love. The man and his wife has become one.  The woman must never plot a coup at home against the husband, to overthrow him. It kills the love and bring monumental chaos into the marriage.  

God made man the head and the woman, his help mate.  Any other arrangement contrary to this is abnormal. 

FIRE...