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STRONG MARRIAGES ARE REAL........20 Important steps to having a strong love-filled HOME

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The institution of marriage is at the receiving end of the end-time drama that is happening in the world today.  We have baby mothers, teenagers carrying children,and then we have older ladies who find it difficult to find suitors.  

We also have people pursuing strange relationships and lusting after themselves in the way they should never be.

In the west, many young people are even thinking it is better to remain single than get married because of the troubles they sense in marriage.  These and more problems are confronting the marriage institution.

However, with strong determination and commitment, each person's marriage is expected to be 'heaven on earth'.If the couples can forgive themselves, have mutual respect for each other, allow love and unforgiveness to reign in their heart, nothing shall be impossible for them.

I do not know the challenges your marriage is facing at the moment, but I am optimistic that if you can prayerfully apply these steps and principles in your marriage, you will see a difference.

1. Choose to love each other, even in those moments when you struggle to like each other. Love is a commitment, not a feeling.

2. Always answer the phone when your husband/wife is calling. When possible, try to keep your phone off when you're together with your spouse.

3. Make time together a priority. Budget for a consistent date night. Time is the "currency of relationships," so consistently invest time into your marriage.

4. Make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage. Share moments of joy. And even in the hard times, find reasons to laugh.

5. In every argument, remember that there won't be a "winner" and a "loser." You're partners in everything so you'll either win together or lose together. Work together to find a solution.

6. Realize that a strong marriage rarely has two strong people at the same time. It's usually a husband and wife taking turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak.

7. Prioritize what happens in the bedroom. It takes more than sex to build a strong marriage, but it's nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it.

8. Give your best to each other, not your leftovers after you've given your best to everyone else.

9. Learn from other people, but don't feel the need to compare your life or your marriage to anyone else's. God's plan for your life is masterfully unique.

10. Don't put your marriage on hold while you're busy travelling for business and other things.  plan your activities together as much as you can possibly do, or else you'll end up with an empty nest and an empty marriage.

11. Never keep secrets from each other. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy.

12. Never lie to each other. Lies break trust and trust is the foundation of a strong marriage.

13. When you've made a mistake, admit it and humbly seek forgiveness. You should be quick to say, "I was wrong. I'm sorry. Please forgive me."

14. When your husband/wife breaks your trust, give them your forgiveness instantly. This will promote healing and create the opportunity for trust to be rebuilt. You should be quick to say, "I love you. I forgive you. Let's move forward."

15. Be patient with each other. Your spouse is always more important than your schedule.

16. Model the kind of marriage that will make your sons want to grow up to be good husbands, and your daughters want to grow up to be good wives.

17. Be your spouse's biggest encourager, not his/her biggest critic. Be the one who wipes away their tears, not the one who causes them.

18. Avoid living separately in different location.  Husband in Lagos, Wife in New York destroys home, especially when it prolongs.

19. Never consider divorce as an option. Remember that a "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

20. Respect your spouse in the presence of your children and outsiders, consider the word to speak when you are angry.  Negatives words destroy marriages and cause divorce.

Friends, Jesus Christ is coming soon.  Prepare to meet your Lord and Saviour clothed with spotless garment.  


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