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12 MAJOR CAUSES OF DIVORCE........To Avoid and Counter!


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Marriage is a sweet experience when the two people stay happily together to the end.  They start young, being best friends, sharing the best of moments together, later the union is blessed with children and the family becomes bigger, more joy and merriment. 

The children are trained, and later established and before you know it, they have gone their different ways, leaving the father and mother alone again as the best of friends they were in the beginning.

One thing you will notice is that the wife and husband will be looking like brother and sister, children of same parent - Because they have lived together in love and peace, they then look alike. What a experience!.

What then is the reason for the divorce, divorce - we see everywhere today?  Is it Infidelity, lack of communication, financial troubles,  intimacy etc. Let’s look at the 12 most common reasons for divorce and hope that you can learn from the mistakes of others.

According to the UN, the country with the highest divorce rate in the world is the Maldives with 10.97 divorces per 1,000 inhabitants per year. This is followed by the Belarus with 4.63 and the United States wih 4.34.

Top 12 Reasons for Divorce:

1. Infidelity
Extra-marital affairs are responsible for the breakdown of most marriages that end in divorce. This is one of the most common cause of divorce. 

2. Money
Money makes people funny, or so the saying goes, and it’s true. Everything from different spending habits and financial goals to one spouse making considerably more money than the other, causing a power struggle can strain a marriage to the breaking point. “Money really touches everything. It impacts people’s lives,” 

3. Deception 
When there was a seed of discord in the area of deception, whenever the truth comes to live, mistrust sets in and if there is no forgiveness, separation may follow.

4. Lack of communication
Communication is crucial in marriage and not being able to communicate effectively quickly leads to resentment and frustration for both, impacting all aspects of a marriage. On the other hand, good communication is the foundation of a strong marriage. Yelling at your spouse, not talking enough throughout the day, making nasty comments to express yourself are all unhealthy methods of communication that need to be replaced with lovely and caring words.

5. Constant arguement
From bickering about chores to arguing about the kids; incessant arguing kills many relationships. Couples who seem to keep having the same argument over again often do so because they feel they’re not being heard or appreciated. Many find it hard to see the other person’s point of view, which leads to a lot of arguments without ever coming to a resolution.

In a believing house, mutual submission will resolve this constant arguement.  When you know that the devil should not be allowed any space in your house, submission becomes easy.

6. Weight gain
It may seem awfully superficial or unfair, but weight gain is a common reason for divorce. In some cases a significant amount of weight gain causes the other spouse to become less physically attracted while for others, weight gain takes a toll on their self-esteem, which trickles into issues with intimacy.

7. Unrealistic expectations
It’s easy to go into a marriage with lofty expectations; expecting your spouse and the marriage to live up to your image of what they should be. These expectations can put a lot of strain on the other person, leaving you feeling let down and setting your spouse up for failure.

8. Lack of intimacy
Not feeling connected to your partner can quickly ruin a marriage because it leaves couples feeling as though they’re living with a stranger or more like roommates than spouses. This can be from a lack of physical or emotional intimacy and isn’t always about sex. If you are constantly giving your spouse the cold shoulder, then know that over time it can become the ground for divorce. Making your relationship intimate and special is the responsibility of both partners. Practice little acts of kindness, appreciation and enjoy physical intimacy as much as possible to sweeten your relationship.

9. Lack of Children
Where one of the partners love children and having children becomes a challenge, the marriage is threatened.  If the fault is from the man - May be there are hormonal imbalances to fix and it is not fixed on time or the man refused to treat himself, the lady could loose interest in the marriage and seek divorce.

10. Lack of equality
When one partner feels that they take on more responsibility in the marriage, it can alter their view of the other person and lead to resentment. Every couple must negotiate through their own and unique set of challenges, and find their own way of living together as two equals who enjoy a respectful, harmonious and joyful relationship.

11. Not being prepared for marriage
A surprising number of couples of all ages have blamed not being prepared for married life for the demise of their relationship. Divorce rates are highest among couples in their 20s. Almost half the divorces occur in the first 10 years of marriage, especially between the fourth and eighth anniversary.

12. Abuse
Physical or emotional abuse is a sad reality for some couples. It doesn’t always stem from the abuser being a “bad” person; deep emotional issues are usually to blame. Regardless of the reason, no one should tolerate abuse and be removing yourself from the relationship safely is important.

No marriage is easy. Even couples with the best intentions are sometimes unable to overcome their challenges and end up in courtrooms. That’s why it’s important to address issues in your relationship early on. 

Practice kindness, make intimacy a priority, go on holidays, study the word of God regularly and bring Christ into your marriage and home.  Make effort to start praying together with your spouse and make the word of God come alive in your life and marriage.

Tell your spouse you love him/her and mean it from the heart, be patient with your spouse and appreciate every effort he/she makes to develop skills and capacity both in marriage and life.

Appreciate his/her family members and see his/her family as yours. Love your inlaws and be prayerful in all circumstances.  Continually ask the Holy Spirit to help you.

Beloved, Jesus is coming back soon.  "Where will you spend eternity - In heaven or hell? This is the time to work-out your salvation.  Now is the acceptable time!

Repent and give your heart to Jesus. He will give you a new life, victory and eternal life.  Will you accept Him today?

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