WARNING.......Your Neighbour's Wife is not your Mutual Friend - Run from Evil!

Cartoon of a frisky female neighbor beckoning a man through a side window.  


The days are evil and yet people do things the Lord expressly said we should not do as though it does not matter.  Some harden their heart to ignore the word of God, preferring rather do their own thing - Whatever pleases them.

There are consequences for every action a man takes, and some of the consequences are not pleasant to hear.  One of such things is lusting after your neighbour's wife, no matter how she admires you. 
They will tell you that most of the infidelity problems involving people working or living together in the same office or compound, happened by accident. But it is not true. Evil thoughts, adultery and it's like are thoughts that come first from the heart and nurtured into action.

God is not mocked in all these, whatsoever a man sow, the same shall he reap.

I don't know what brings you and your neighbour together, but I know that it is only people who lack integrity and fear of God that can attempt relationship with their neighbour's wife.  If they call you handsome man, or you are gainfully employed with alot of cash to spear, stay away from your neighbour's wife for your own good.  

The danger of sleeping with another man's wife is real. 

Temptation is part of our daily experiences of life and without hesitation, the solution for lusting after the opposite sex in your office, church or in your compound is TAKE YOUR EYES OFF.  No bonding, No eye Passes etc.

We know some women could behave like Pontiphar's wife, but you, the man will bear the brunt of sleeping with another man's wife, as nobody will ask the woman whether she was the one that seduced you. 

You probably know how it goes - Gazing can quickly devolve into gawking, and soon enough you could find yourself checking for her, desiring to hear her voice or have her share a drink with you.  Take your eyes off! 


Some wicked women seduce young bachelors for fun or money to the destruction of such a young man, in some rare cases, occultic strong men seeking blood will deliberately starve their wives of sex for a long time, so she can be tempted to seek pleasure outside the marriage.  This is a trap set deliberately to catch the woman, or the man or both of them.  

Once, a beautiful woman seeking counsel narrated how every man that sleeps with her dies. I asked where the husband was and she said 'at home'. So why are you sleeping outside, when your husband is at home? - Nothing!  But three men had died from sleeping with her.  Men, beware.

Here is the story of Brother Wisdom - I've been good friends for 11 years with a couple who live in my condo complex. I've looked after their home while they vacationed, and they've done the same for me. I've also played golf and tennis with the husband, Thomas*, many times. 

Recently his wife, Carol, asked me to come over because their garbage disposal wasn't working and Thomas was out of town. It was an easy fix, and she thanked me. As I started to leave, she asked me why I had never made a pass at her. "Because you're married," I said. "Married, yes," she replied, "but not dead." Then she let her robe fall open. Shocked, I told her that wasn't right and hightailed it out of there. I haven't spoken to her since. But should I tell her husband? Or pretend it never happened? 

Here is Brother Jackson's story:

My neighbour’s wife has kids but she’s quite young. For sometime I have being on leave, each time she’s always asking when I’m resuming I keep telling her soon. One morning she came to my house that she needed my help to do something online and I noticed she was not wearing a bra and as if she wanted me to notice it going by her body movement. Last week she brought her laptop that she wanted me to check it for her and that she was going to pick it up the next morning. So while checking the laptop I noticed there were some pictures on the desktop. 

Out of curiosity I opened one of the pictures and noticed it was her nude pictures. So I opened another one and still the same. When she came the next day I told her the laptop was fine. Then she asked me the she hopes I didn’t look at her pictures ooo. I was mute and said what pictures? She laughed and asked me if I liked what I saw? Honestly I was shocked. I told her no that I needed to do something that she should please excuse me for now. The husband is a good neighbour and I just feel very guilty and angry. I just moved in the compound 9 months ago and all these is happening.  How do I stop all this nonsense?

Adultery in marriage - Terrible sin before God
Adultery refers to the act of a married individual having sexual relations with someone other than their spouse. It is a damaging sin that affects the person and the family, an institution established by God.  Believers are warned to flee from sexual immorality as all other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. It is a sin against the temple of God, which a born again child of God is - 1 Corinthians 6:18

In the issue of adultery, the bible refers to two types of women that commit adultery with a married man.  She is either another man's wife or a Prostitute.  This means that any unmarried girl getting into a relationship with a married man is a prostitute in the realm of the spirit.  There is no boy or girlfriend in the bible or in the spirit.  The man you call your boyfriend is actually your husband in the spirit.  This is why, when you conceive and have a baby, the baby is his child and he is responsible for the upkeep of the child. All the ladies looking for married men for love relationship are all regarded as 'PROSTITUTES'. 

In Proverbs 5:3-22 warns the man of the risk ahead if they are deceived by the lips of an adulterous woman.  It says, "For the lips of the adulterous woman drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil;  but in the end, she is bitter as gall, sharp as a double-edged sword.  Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave.  She gives no thought to the way of life; her paths wander aimlessly, but she does not know it.  Now then, my sons, listen to me; do not turn aside from what I say.  Keep to a path far from her, do not go near the door of her house,  lest you lose your honor to others and your dignity to one who is cruel.

In Exodus 20:14, the Lord issued a specific command against adultery: “You shall not commit adultery, for God Himself shall judge adulterers. Apostle Paul speaking in Hebrews 13:4 says "Marriage should be honoured by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.  He asked the people of Corinth in 1 Corinthians 6:15-16 saying "Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in the body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.”

Take your eyes off - In Proverbs 15: 24-29, the man is warned again to take his eyes of his neighbour's wife and from the smooth talk of a wayward woman. The bible says, do not lust in your heart after her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes.  For a prostitute can be had for a loaf of bread, but another man’s wife preys on your very life.  It asks, "Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned?  Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched? So is he who sleeps with another man’s wife; no one who touches her will go unpunished. 

Men are advised to drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well and not be intoxicated by the breasts of a strange woman.  Why embrace the bosom of a wayward woman?  For your ways are in full view of the LORD, and he examines all your paths.  The evil deeds of the wicked ensnare them; the cords of their sins hold them fast.  For lack of discipline they will die, led astray by their own great folly - Proverbs 5:18-23.

It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God, according to the bible in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5. But, in Matthew 5:27-28, our Lord Jesus Christ brought the spiritual dimension of adultery.  He says “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’  But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

Though God hate divorce, but the sin of adultery is heavy enough to warrant God allow a man to divorce his wife for adultery, if he cannot forgive her.  The Lord says - “It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.’  But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery -  Matthew 5:31-32.

Finally on this matter, the wise King and son of David had this advice for men. "But a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself" - Proverbs 6:32.

couple embracing on stairs

Uncle -  Why should you be Bonding with another Man's Wife?

A bond is when two people have a connection. Being attracted to each other and sharing common values and interests. It also happens, when two people feel some mutual affection for each other and there seem to be love and care between you.

Bonding is having a strong longing and passion for someone and that person knows about it in one way or another.  It starts with Lusting through constant and regular interaction.

This is a friendship progressing from the ordinary to one that you begin to miss each other, their voice, manners, jokes and laughter.  Bonding is required in marriage and never between a man and his neighbour's wife. If such feeling is allow to grow, then you people are cutting for trouble.

Outcome of Adultery with another man's wife

These are real-life stories of what happened. Men and Brethren, please desist from looking at another man's wife, no matter the eyes she makes to you. No matter how wonderful she presents herself to you or the manner of help she is ready to provide to you, you must not touch her.  If you touch her, remember the bible says 'can a man put a burning coal on his chest or bossom without being burnt?

You read the case of brother Tunde attached here and the case of Joseph in the bible. They both had to flee from the woman to avoid compromising with her. Temptation is part of life and if a christian cannot be tempted, then he or she have not even started off as a believer.

Two real-life cases has been presented here as they occurred and were recorded to warn men in such a relationship right now to repent, separate yourself from such evil before God and before man before it is too late.

Man killed for having sex with neighbour's wife.

A man was beaten to death in Nakuru after he was allegedly found having sex with his neighbour’s wife. The assailant found Justus Kipkemoi, a casual labourer, inside his bedroom on Friday and beat him senseless on Friday. According to police and area residents, Kipkemoi was cornered by his neighbour in a compromising position with his wife. 

The man and his wife are being held at Menengai Police Station. It is alleged Kipkemoi sneaked into his neighbour’s house at Kasarani in Kampi Ya Moto in the morning after the man had left for work. A witness, Elijah Chemoywa, said the assailant pretended to have left for work and returned after an hour when he found the two in his bedroom. He said the man was shocked to find his neighbour in bed with his wife and a fight ensued where Kipkemoi was seriously beaten. 

He was rushed to Rift Valley Provincial General Hospital where he succumbed to the injuries. But the woman told police that the deceased had requested for tea and took him inside, denying her husband’s allegations. Confirming the incident, Rongai OCPD Joseph Mwamburi said they were holding the 28-year-old suspect and he will be arraigned in court once they conclude investigations. 

Their landlord James Maina said the deceased’s wife informed them of the confrontation but the attacker had locked the room from inside, hence complicating efforts to save Kipkemoi. He said Kipkemoi sustained serious injuries at the back of his head and blood was oozing from the mouth and was rushed to hospital. “The fact that the assailant’s wife fled and hid inside a maize plantation while nude clearly reveals what had transpired moments before the husband arrived unannounced,” said Maina. Rosemary Lopenyo said she was asleep in her adjacent house when she heard commotion but did not go out until police officers from Menengai arrived at the scene. “When police arrived, they found Kipkemoi with severe head and neck injuries. I was shocked. He died a painful death,” she said.

STORY 2:- Man Hacks Neighbour to Death for Sleeping with his Wife

There was heightened tension yesterday at Abinse town, in Guma local government area of Benue state, when a middle-aged man, Benjamin Fakande allegedly hacked his neighbour, one Jacob Unumbe,  to death after he caught the deceased in bed with his wife. 

Saturday Vanguard gathered from an eyewitness that Benjamin had been suspecting and accusing his wife of infidelity but when he confronted her on the issue, she denied and threatened to quit the marriage. ”The man had been accusing his wife of infidelity, but when the rumour became rife for several weeks, the man decided to spy on the wife until he got proof that she was actually having an affair outside her matrimonial home with the deceased. ”He was forced to confront the deceased whom he cautioned to stay away from his wife because he was destroying his marriage or be prepared to face the consequence of his inglorious acts. 

”But from all indications, the duo continued in the immoral act because the rumours were all over the place and this further enraged Benjamin who also pleaded with family members to prevail on his wife, but that did not also yield anything positive. ”Unfortunately Benjamin caught them in one of their escapades in a neighbour’s house. At that point, the man became confused and grabbed a big stick and chased after the two of them. ”He eventually caught up with Jacob and hacked him down, inflicting severe injuries on his head after which he left him in his pool of blood.” 

According to the witness, the cry of Mrs Fakande attracted the attention of neighbours who got to the scene of the attack and rushed the victim to a nearby hospital where he was later pronounced dead. Saturday Vanguard gathered that the death of Jacob Unumbe angered his family members who threatened reprisal attack on his killer but for the quick intervention of the Divisional Police Office in Gbajimba, which arrest the suspect and ensured the restoration of peace in the community. 

How to Relate with your Neighbours - Guide

1. Frequent interaction creates a bond, Avoid it strictly. 

2. If the interaction is between female and male neighbours, care must be taken to keep it at friendship level..If you went pass interaction to forming a bond, there is a likelihood for intimacy.

3. Put some personal restrictions in place that guides your relationship with women  - married or single according to the word of God.

4. Do not allow unnecessary closeness, intimate conversations whatsoever with your neighbour's wife.

5. Do not allow her into your house for any purpose when you are the only one at home. If the need for interaction arises at such time, close your door and meet her outside. Resist the devil and he will flee.

6. Avoid giving her lift to work every morning - before you know it she will start discussing restricted topics with you and bonding would start unknowingly.

7. If you both work in the same office or close by, you must not take her out for lunch NEVER. Remember that little things mean a lot to women.

Beware of young wives

God made it clear to all and sundry to desist from the wife and properties of their neighbours and I plead with young and handsome men to run away from amorous women that prey on young men for love and fun.  

The young wives entering into marriage are joyous and careless in the way they carry their body in the compound.  They are not matured yet, in fact, many of them behave like playgirls, in the way they show their joy.  Take your eyes off them, so they won't cause trouble for you.  There are hard ones among them, who know what they are doing.  These dangerous ones, target your star, to arrest and destroy it.  They are destiny hunters!

Beloved, I don't know what you are doing in the secret, but the bible says that whosoever covereth his sin shall not prosper. Search yourself and repent of every secret sin.  If you have not given your heart to Jesus Christ, please do so today, don't wait another day, do it NOW!  



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