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SISTERS,SINGLE MOMS .........Allow your sons/daughters to know their fathers





Mistakes happen, errors are committed...but that's not the end of life!


Single mothers are tough ladies and their courage should be praised for their courage.  Circumstances of life forced them to cater for their children alone - playing the role of father and mother to their children.  

Being single Mom was not the plan of many, but circumstances beyond their control put them in that condition and I think it will not be out of place for the church they belong to support them, fill some gaps in their lives and in their children's upbringing.

Having said that, and looking back at relationship errors that lead to single parenting, you will see that due to ignorance, many of today's single mothers who thought the man they loved and got pregnant for would be their husband, but were disappointed are encouraged to take heart, and know that there is help for them in Christ.

Some men and even ladies thought they were tough, and cannot be moved by any disrespecting man or woman, but today, they have seen that they were not as tough as they thought.

Others thought their intelligence and beauty, handsomeness would easily get them a better man or woman to marry, so they dished the ones they were in love with for one reason or the other, but today, they know better.

For many, it is their best friend that caused their separation or broke their relationship that caused them to be single mother - Please forgive and just remember your destiny is still available and bright as ever.

I don't know the circumstances that led to your having your baby and your supposed husband is not by your side. I know that such a disappointment is very hard to bear, especially when you think the fault is not from you.  

I can imagine the despair, the rejection and bitterness it generates for ladies, when they see the man that put them in the family, getting married to another woman.

It could be the hardest thing for many to bear, all I am saying is - please forgive and again remember that your creator is still alive and your destiny is still as bright as ever.  Forgive that man and free your spirit and get move on with your life.  Your future and that of the baby could be affected negatively by the way you handle the matter.

Many children are today emotionally depressed and angry with their mothers because they don't know their father.  Many of them will pressurize their  mothers to determine if their father is alive or dead, only to discover their father is alive, and kicking.  Some are even doing so well, but the bitterness of the past is preventing the mother from telling their children the truth about their father or allowing them to know the man.  This should not be so!

My point is that when you forgive the man and allow your son/daughter access to him - To at least see and know who their father is, the children will also  discharge you in their heart.

For a believing child of God, you have no business carrying the burden of the past in your heart to the extent that it becomes a stumbling block to your future.  When you forgive and forget, you settle the matter and then able to move on with your life and God's plan for you.  

So, I counsel you to forgive that man today.  Release yourself from the cage that unforgiveness puts on people...and see what God has in stock for you and your child.  The future is in God's hands and not in the hands of any man, that is why all eyes are on the Lord, creator of heaven and earth. 

I have deliberately avoided the legal aspect of this matter - CUSTODY OF THE CHILD.  I did not discuss the custody of the child in the case of legally married and divorced mothers and even those whose marriages was not concluded and no bride price paid.  

All I am saying is -  Please allow your sons/daughters to know their father.  Its important for the emotional development of the children.  I know you love your children, please don't deny them the knowledge of their father, when the man is alive.

Let love lead!  Let your sons/daughters know their father!!

Shalom




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