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SEVEN WISDOM KEYS TO STAY HAPPY ...........Enjoy life and your relationship with People

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Introduction - Real life is REAL

We live in the real world of challenges and problem every day.  People make their personal plans, but meet with difficulties in executing them year after year. 

A lot of people do their best to become successful, but their best is not good enough, even to put food on the table everyday for them.

Many people love children, but after many years in marriage cannot have even one child.  Some of such people (Couple) have some specific sickness, while many are free from any known disease, yet they cannot have children.

Some children and youth would like to get good education but there is no parent to help them.  They are not orphans, its just that their parents do not have the means to send them to school.

In the midst of all these, there are people who have never experienced hardship in life. Some youth have never entered a public transport all their lives.  The only experience they have with sitting with other people in a journey is when they fly.  There are people spending fortunes in luxury goods and entertainment every other day.

So many from poor homes believe when they acquire good education, surely they will become rich.  So they have struggled to the university and obtain a good degree, some Masters and others Phd, and yet there is no job. They have to leave to Europe in search of greener pastures, only to find themselves in Bar and Restaurants as cleaners. 

I gave these real life scenarios to show that all fingers are not equal and so it is one of the truths that will give you peace of mind, so you don't get offended by the man that is prospering in his ways.

Everyone will have their own opportunity to succeed in life, so to succeed, you need God, the hep of the Holy Spirit and hard work.  God blesses what we are doing.  He blesses the works of our hands that is good.  We must be determined to be the best in our field - the spirit of diligence and excellence finding expression in the way we do our work.

Being Happy:
Having said all that, there are a lot of advantages to being a happy person. Studies consistently show happy people enjoy benefits ranging from better relationships and improved health to enhanced creativity and better problem-solving skills.  

It seems as though people are trying harder than ever to be happy these days. Yet, the pursuit of happiness doesn’t always have a happy ending. If you’re making any of these mistakes, your efforts to increase your happiness could backfire:

1. Do Not Compare Yourself to Others

It can be tempting to compare your life to the lives of those around you – and one of the most common ways people draw social comparisons on social media. But, social media comparisons aren’t a good yardstick for measuring happiness. Comparing your life to someone else's highlight reel will undermine your well-being.

Scrolling through Facebook and the social media to view other people’s events and vacation photos could mislead you into thinking your life doesn’t measure up. Studies even show that envying your friends on Facebook can actually lead to depression. So rather than turn your quest for happiness into a competition, stay focused on your own journey to a better life.

2. Placing Too Much Emphasis on Happiness

A 2011 study concluded, “Valuing happiness may lead people to be less happy just when happiness is within reach.” If you expect that you ‘should’ be happy, you may grow discouraged when your emotions don’t match your expectations. Self-defeating thoughts like, “I’ve got a good marriage, great kids, and a nice job – I should be happier,” will cause you to feel worse.

Avoid judging yourself for not being happy enough. Focus on enjoying the moment. When you stop creating emotional expectations, you’ll experience more contentment.

3. Putting Timeline on Your Happiness

It’s likely everyone has thought a specific event or change in circumstances would ignite their happiness. While one person may say, “I’ll be happy when I lose weight,” another might assume, “I’ll be happy when I’m retired.” But waiting for – and planning on – external events to make you happy will only lead to disappointment.

Research shows that everyone has some sort of happiness baseline. So while a new chapter in your life may provide an initial boost to your happiness, the positive effect will eventually wear off. So don’t wait until you get married, have a better job, move to a new city, or have kids to be happy – seize the moment and enjoy today.

4. Confusing Success with Happiness

Success and happiness can raise some 'chicken or the egg' type questions. Are happy people successful? Or are successful people happy?

Research shows that happy people are more likely to become successful. But being successful doesn’t necessarily make you happy. Unfortunately, people often confuse the order and inadvertently make themselves miserable.

The pursuit of success leads people to accept longer commutes, work more hours, and refrain from social activity. But earning more money or gaining a promotion won’t automatically make you happier. In fact, the steps you may need to take to pursue high levels of achievements are exactly the types of things that can zap your happiness the fastest.

Balance your pursuit of success and your pursuit of happiness in a way that aligns with your values.

5. Thinking You’re Alone

Social support is one of the keys to happiness. But being surrounded by people – even kind and loving friends and family – won’t guarantee happiness. In fact, research shows your perception of your relationships is what matters most.

People who think things like, “No one likes me,” are more susceptible to negative moods. Those who feel supported – even when it may not be true – are more likely to feel happy. So worry less about filling your social calendar with superficial social engagements, and focus more on forming deeper connections with those that matter.

6. Don't Expect Too Much from People

Don't expect too much from your friends and relations, Remember, every one has his own troubles in life to face.  Your friend is not your mother or father, he does not necessarily owe you any favour, if he cannot afford what you want from him. Expecting too much from people will give rise to offense and with offense is anger and bitterness and the person ends up imprisoning himself or herself.

7. Do Not Hold Offence

In the every day living, offenses will arise and people can even deliberately do things that are not good to you, please forgive them freely.  Some of those things are not deliberate, while others may be on purpose.  But a wise and happy man or woman will forgive all offenses, leaving the matter to God.

Choose Happiness

You can choose to be happy, no matter what is going on in your life. If you are a believer in Christ, then you know He is with you to help you overcome difficult challenges of life.

There will be unpleasant times, but how you react to tough times will determine your happiness and maturity in Christ.

Friends, the time is short.  Economic and political challenges will continue till Christ come.  When your assignment on earth comes to an end, where will you spend eternity"?

Repent of your sins, believe the word of God and accept His Son Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour. He will send the Holy Spirit of God to you, who will guides you through the right choices and tells you things to come. 

He will give you a new life, victory and eternal life. Will you accept Him today?

Say this Prayer: 

Lord Jesus I come to you as a sinner.
I am sorry for my sins, forgive me.
I believe you died for my sins, and was raised for my justification. 
Come into my heart be my Lord and Saviour, 
Give me the grace to serve You in truth and spirit. 
Thank You for saving my soul - I am born again!

His grace be with you all. 

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