ADULTERY IN MARRIAGE................Know why the 'Mighty' are Falling

Faithfulness in Marriage!

Introduction
Many women cry bitterly when they suddenly discover they have fallen to cunning men and compromise their vow before God to be faithful to their spouse.

Many married people know how hard it is to rebuild trust destroyed through infidelity.  It is very hard for that your lovely husband to truely trust you again, when he discovers that you are cheating on him.  Adultery in marriage usually lead to serious problems, it is a sin that easily lead to other sins and God is against it. The bible said God Himself will judge the adulterer.

Adultery, which is also called infidelity is the highest cause of divorce world-wide.  It leads to emotional pain, fight, separation and untimely death.  Careful children of God are very sensitive to friendships, play and jokes that seek to subtly lure them into relationship outside their marriage, because it brings a curse on the marriage.  This message is targeted at young couples, who are learning to live together, love and appreciate one another.  I hope it will also benefit single ladies and men.  

It is important to each person, especially Believers in Christ, should decide before hand, never to allow any temptation that will cause them to be unfaithful.  Such a decision usually influence people to be strict in the way they relate with the opposite sex.  It will also guide the person on places to stay away from, i.e. from Zones of Temptation like Night Clubs, late night parties, visiting friends at night etc.

A lot of Believers would seal their decision with a vow of chastity before God.  When you make such a vow from your heart, the Holy Ghost will help you each time the enemy attacks your faith in that direction.  The Lord will show you the way of escape.  Carelessness and sticking with old pals, lovers and acquaintances after marriage has been found to be the major causes of secret affairs in marriage. 



Important Preventive Steps

In addition to making a vow, before the Lord, the man and woman in marriage should take the following behavioural steps and make them a way of life.  They are honourable steps that speaks louder than words, that you are married and happy with your spouse.  It will communicate your heart to people that you don't want any 'Passes' from anywhere, you are a child of God.

1. Do not make any opposite sex outside your spouse, your close confidant, with whom you discuss intimate matters. Any married person that discusses his/her family issues with friends and colleagues will sure destroy the marriage before long.

2. Avoid secret meetings with the opposite sex, and where it is necessary, go with your spouse.

3. Avoid unnecessary familiarity and play with friends and colleagues.  Stop asking friends very intimate questions about their relationship or spouse and discourage such questions politely.

4. Avoid unnecessary body contact and hugging and giving pecks after marriage - Keep your heart and body pure.

5. Avoid accusing your spouse in the presence of a third party - Friends and colleagues, because once they discover you are not happy in marriage, the mischievous ones among them will see it as an opportunity to show you fake love and care, the kind you are lacking at home.

6. If you must discuss your marital issue with a close brother in the Lord or Sister, Pastor, make sure the person is of your same sex.  Don't discuss with your Pastor, except on a counseling day, when their team is with them. 

7. Be proud of our spouse always, when he or she is there or not.  Let your friends and relatives know you love your spouse.  Say 'I love you' to our spouse always -Do you know why?  Love grows with nourishment.  If your nourish and appreciate your love affairs regularly, the faster it grows.

8. Avoid collecting unsolicited gifts and favours from the opposite sex.  Avoid free ride to and from the office by the same person every day. If the favour continue for long, intimacy could develop that could bring a fall, after all the man is not a father Christmas.

9. Don't lust for evil things in your heart. Trust in the Lord for your promotion and work hard.  Don't try to promote yourself by compromising your faith and marriage.

10. Never you think that the other man or woman is better than your spouse.  That is an error that promote adultery.

11. Direct all your sexual fantasy and emotions towards your spouse and no body else.  Be contempt with what is your own.

12. Men especially, should avoid turning back to re-examine a lady's appearance or beauty/figure as such act registers the picture in his memory, which the devil will use later to tempt him to fall.

13. Make God fearing people your friends.  A single sister with a single sister, married woman with married woman.  Married women should be careful in discussing her marriage with a divorcee.

Temptation will come
Beloved, you should know that, no matter how careful and pious you present yourself, the devil will send someone to tempt you one day. Though you carry your body in dignity and honour, temptations will surely come. But the good news is that, there is no temptation that you cannot overcome if you are determined. Ensure your heart is pure and stayed in God.

You should be in firm control of your body, and bring it under subjection to the word of God, otherwise the end-time spirit of seduction and lust could sweep the person away into avoidable error.  Married women should be weary of mischievous men, who compliment women in the office, but are faithful at home.  When such men compliment you, gently ask them to compliment their own wife.  

Fear God

I am amazed at people who do not fear the Lord or have regards for His word. How would you survive temptation on all sides today, if you don't fear the Lord.  How long will you be faithful to your spouse and God if you don't have boundaries of behaviour well set and religiously obeyed? You must have strict spiritual and physical borders if you want to remain faithful to God and your spouse.  There must be some personal DOs AND DON'Ts that guide everyone in marriage. As a child of God and you must insist on biblical standards, else your fall is just a matter of time.  

There are things you do not need to see or touch, there are conversations you do not need to enter into; there are even faces you do not need to look at, talk less of looking into those eyes and admiring them.

Brethren, as important as we need grace, we must be determined to resist every temptation, even to the point of blood.  Joseph's resistance landed him in jail, but God honoured him there and took him from that prison, straight to the palace.

Prove you are Born Again

Infidelity is the test every married man or woman must pass today if they are Christians.  Once you fall to the opposite sex, the chances are that you may fall again and again until God delivers you from that valley.  Do you know why...Because the devil will always use the point of your weakness to tempt you over and over again.

Let us surrender to Jesus Christ because there is nothing good in us, sinners and request for His grace and mercy to see us through our journey on earth.  It will not be by your human wisdom, approach or other effort, the devil is wiser than man, you must surrender to Jesus the weaknesses of your life and exchange them with the image and likeness of Jesus.  Seek more of Him that created heaven and earth, and it will be well with you!

What the bible says about unfaithfulness in marriage

Adultery is a damaging sin, with personal, family and spiritual consequences. Believers must know that unfaithfulness is the leading cause of divorce world-wide and many have lost their lives untimely due to it.  The following scriptures relate to adultery.

1. 1 Corinthians 6:18 - Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. 

2. Exodus 20:14 - “You shall not commit adultery.

3. Hebrews 13:4 - Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.

4. Mark 10:11-12 - He answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. 12 And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.”

5. Matthew 5:27-28 - “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ 28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

6. 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 - Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men  nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.

7. Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares? . Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers. May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.  A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love.  Why, my son, be intoxicated with another man’s wife? Why embrace the bosom of a wayward woman?  For your ways are in full view of the LORD, and he examines all your paths.  The evil deeds of the wicked ensnare them; the cords of their sins hold them fast.

FIRE...