Actions that Believing Moms must Avoid!

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TRAINING UP THE CHILD!

INTRODUCTION:

What is bad parenting? - Not training a child in the way of the Lord

Parents have a responsibility before God to bring up their children in the way of the Lord.  God expects us to be genuinely His children as parents so that we can pass all the things He will teach us unto our children.  

It is a well-known fact that mothers that dress skimpy have been known to buy such dresses for their children, not seeing anything wrong with skimpy dressing. If the parents do not fear God, it will take God's intervention for their children to know and fear God - Children copy their parents!

We are to be imitators of God, our Heavenly Father, and God's aim is for us to conform to the image of Christ in everything.  The same for our children, so that they will grow in love for God, submitting to the lordship of Christ.  That our children grow in love for their neighbours as they love themselves.  

To see our kids grow up to love God with all their hearts, and to love others as they live daily by submitting their thoughts, words, and deeds to the Lord Jesus Christ is a task that should be uppermost in the heart of parents.

But many times, parents indulge in detrimental behaviours in the presence of their children, leaving a long-lasting effect on the child. It may not be intentional, but the damage is done. Once an evil seed has been sowed in the heart of the child, it becomes very difficult to erase.  Some mothers even expose their nakedness to their little children, which leaves the children imagining evil things from their youth.

Parents, prayerfully seek to bring your children to genuine conversion in Christ.

Prayerfully do this.  Be devoted to the things of God, speaking of His goodness all the time.  Studying your bible and praising Him daily. Pray for your children to receive the Lord in their youth etc and believe God for answered prayers

Bad Parenting Proper:

1. It includes not giving a child a good example to copy

2. Acts that pollute and corrupt a young child's mind

3. Exposing the child to danger - knowingly or unknowingly

4. Neglecting the child and not giving the child attention when necessary

5. Showing the child a bad example that can mislead the child

The definition of bad parenting is not a single act of poor nurturing but rather a series of such actions that invariably harm the little one’s demeanour and psychology. A parent may feel guilty and will try to reconcile, but it is often too late, the deed has been done and an evil seed has been sowed into the child's memory.

Surprisingly, many parents do not realize their folly since the deed was unintentional or perhaps they are too busy to learn to be an active parents. Below are pics of some attributes and actions that all sum up to bad parenting, which children of God must avoid for the moral and healthy growth of their wards.

Help your Children Understand and live in Holiness:

This is a lifelong process, of course. But your goal is to get your kids to have a God-ward focus in their lives. They are accountable primarily to God, not to you. 

They must learn that their disobedience and sin displease Him. They need to learn to please God with every thought, word, and deed. As soon as they’re old enough, you’ll want to help them establish a quiet time. Help them evaluate various activities by the question, “Does it please God?”

Part of growing in godliness is developing godly character qualities. Hebrews 12:10 says that God disciplines (trains) us so that we may share His holiness. You must train your children to share God’s holiness. 

Teach them about moral purity, the fruit of the Spirit, how to deal with trials with the right attitude of joy and thanksgiving, and about having a servant attitude instead of a selfish outlook. Attitudes are important, not just outward behaviour since God is concerned about our attitudes.

Proverbs 22:15 says, “Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; the rod of discipline will remove it far from him.” Children, by nature, are self-centred and proud. 

They need encouragement to grow in humility. Since as sinners, we’re all rebellious at heart, children need to learn submission to proper authority as a part of godliness.

Help your Children Understand and live in Holiness

This is a lifelong process, of course. But your goal is to get your children to have a God-ward focus in their lives. They are accountable primarily to God, not to you. They must learn that their disobedience and sin displease Him. 

They need to learn to please God with every thought, word, and deed. As soon as they’re old enough, you’ll want to help them establish a quiet time. Help them evaluate various activities by the question, “Does it please God?”

Mothers, please avoid these 15 actions that mothers carelessly allow:

• Do not expose your nakedness to your younger ones.
• Don't send your boys to Zip or unzip your clothes, send your daughters
• Do not allow your boy to touch-sensitive parts of your body after a certain age limit
• Don't carry your baby in your handbag - Mothers, please!
• Do not 'back' your baby and be dancing in a club, or 
•  Avoid doing your Yoga exercises with your baby on your chest or back
• Do not give Alcohol to children its harmful!
• Do not carry your baby in a Hanging position
• Avoid carrying your child with one hand
• Avoid kissing young boys deep - You could inflame their emotions
• Don't allow your boys to touch your buttocks
• Taking the children to a club - Bad, please avoid
• Do not expose your nakedness to your younger ones.
• Smoking is a harmful habit - Why introduce it to your child?
• Give them attention, when they desire it - You never know what she has in mind.

Part of growing in godliness is developing godly character qualities. We should teach and show them the importance of inward purity of heart and inner rejection of sin and all manner of evil. Also, we should explain love and faith from the heart.  Love and faith that comes from the heart are deep and long-lasting.

In the book of Hebrews 12:10, the bible says that God disciplines (trains) us so that we may share His holiness. You must train your children to share God’s holiness. Teach them about moral purity, the fruit of the Spirit, how to deal with trials with the right attitude of joy and thanksgiving, and about having a servant attitude instead of a selfish outlook. Attitudes are important, not just outward behaviour since God is concerned about our attitudes.

Children, with their exuberant attitude display foolishness, which parents should help them to amend.  Proverbs 22:15 says  “Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; the rod of discipline will remove it far from him.” 

This means that children, by nature, are self-centred and proud. They need encouragement to grow in humility and servanthood. Since as sinners, we’re all rebellious at heart, children need to learn submission to proper authority as a part of godliness.

Parenting Errors to Avoid

Unrealistic Expectations - If you have unrealistic expectations of what your kids should be doing, you can create a problem for both yourself and the children.  Sometimes a child is brilliant in the formative years and later he is not able to cope because of a new school and new pupils, different teaching methods and approaches or better still encountering high quotient children in a new school or class.  The parents are expected to investigate to know why he is no longer doing as better as he was doing, instead of complaining that he has dropped.

Maintaining expectations that are too low or too high may not be the best thing to do, and labelling them is not good either. Some parents may tell you that their firstborn is the smart kid, the next child is the attractive one and your youngest one is the social child. What kind of message are you passing to the children?

Not getting to know your child - Many parents do not know their children as much as the housemaid or even some neighbours.  The reason is that the man leaves the house in the morning and returns at night.  If the work schedule of the wife is the same as the husband, then their children will suffer a lack of attention and parental care.  It would then boil down to house help and relatives training the children.  When that happens, you don't know your child and that is bad enough because if anything happens, you cannot vouch for him or her because you do not know what is capable of doing.

Don't Neglect them - Parents should always be attentive to their children.  This is why comfortable families allow one of them to leave a job or take a job that gives him or her time to attend to the children when they are still babies and young adults growing up.  For a believer, there is no excuse for neglecting the children. It is not enough to provide for their needs, you should be around to hear them and attend to their needs as they arise.

Let see what the bible says about parenting

These scriptures teach parents how to teach their children the ways of the Lord.  For a born-again Christian, parenting and getting it right is a huge kingdom obligation.

1. Proverbs 13:24 - Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.

2. Proverbs 22:6 -  Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.

3. Proverbs 29:15 - A rod and a reprimand impart wisdom, but a child left undisciplined disgraces its mother.

4. Proverbs 29:17 - Discipline your children, and they will give you peace; they will bring you the delights you desire.

5. Colossians 3:21 -  Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.

6. Proverbs 22:6 - Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.

7. Ephesians 6:4 - Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

8. Colossians 3:21 - Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.

9. Proverbs 13:24 - Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.

10. Psalm 127:3 - Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.

11. Proverbs 29:17 - Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart.

12. Proverbs 23:13 - Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die.

13. Psalm 127:3-5 - Children are a heritage from the LORD, offspring a reward from him. 4 Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth. 5 Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their opponents in court.

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