Important requirements ..........For Christian Marriage!

   

Christian marriage is ever blessed!

Christian marriage as it is in the bible may appear too strict for the youth of these days, because of the new world order of FREEDOM and women empowerment being executed with zeal across the world.

Human wisdom is replacing many important concepts of marriage, take for instance the new ruling in India where adultery is no longer a crime. The freedom in today's environment has almost completely destroyed what used to be a christian marriage.

The marriage ordained by God has rules and conditions which both parties will have to strictly obey and then enter a marriage that will hopefully last a life time.  There is nothing in this world that can compare to a happy and Godly family.  

More than any other time in history, a young man or woman wishing to get married must ensure the person he/she is marrying is ready for marriage. Being ready means that you are familiar with the requirements of scripture for marriage, which you should politely share with your partner and meditate on till your inner man is saturated with the word.

Both of you, intending couples should study these scriptures until you see yourselves behaving differently... more humble, understanding, caring, truth and honesty, loving the Lord and enthroning Him Lord etc. The moment you understand the requirements, you will see the responsibilities that marriages places on you.

The second test is that of spiritual status of your partner.  

You should who your spouse is in the spirit before you conclude the marriage.  The spiritual status of your spouse should not be assumed or taken for granted.  Jesus said it is not everyone calling me Lord, Lord will enter the kingdom of heaven.  It is only those that do the will of my Father in heaven.

It is not everyone you meet in the church are born again.  Everyone in the church are not even Christians, there are many agents of Satan in the church, singing and praising the Lord.  They belong to secret societies and still they are fervent in attending every church activity.  So, make sure the guy or lady is not in darkness before you marry, otherwise, your salvation and eternity in heaven is in danger.

Go to God in prayer, ask the Holy Spirit to reveal the spiritual status of your proposed spouse to you.  If you can observe some days of fasting and praying, it's worth it, but I can assure you that this one of the inquiries the Holy Spirit will be glad to answer as soon as possible.

Do not say the guy is cool, he cannot be an occultist. We have seen many of them today, very innocent looking guys and ladies, workers in the church, yet they are agents of darkness, married in the water.  These are agents of Queen of the Coast, with Jezebel spirit who know how to quench the fire of God in a believer after marriage.  

It is better you are single than marrying a wrong spouse. 

No matter how caring a woman or man may be, if he or she is in darkness, there is a problem. He or she is an enemy of your calling, though she does not hate you.  She will frustrate every spiritual move you make, until the fire of God in that life goes out.  A spouse in darkness is an enemy of light and so will hardly support your heavenly agenda. They are the powers behind lukewarmness in the life of believers...

Beloved, these few matters I mention above should be considered strongly by those wishing to get into marriage.  Ignorance is not an excuse in law.  So many men has been introduced to different perversions by their wives, covenanting them to the Queen of the Coast.  

If you marry an unbelieving person today, get ready for all kind of sexual perversions which could lead you into worshiping the Queen of the Coast and water demons all in the name of sex in marriage.  The world is not bothered how they relate with their spouse, but believers should be concerned.  I am saying this because, it is becoming a new issue in the life of believing couples.  What people see as enjoyment or what is reigning is never seen as such with godly people.  Children of God should enjoy their marriage, but not to be controlled by fleshly lust to the roof-level.

I think couples should agree the number of children they want to have, and leave it to assumption.  It has brought a lot of trouble, when the man want more children and the wife insist she will have only two children, whether there is money to take them or not.  Couples who started early tend to have more children than those getting married at the age of 35-40 years.  But, when a lady has had three children by her 25th birthday and draws a line on more children.  Her husband is a little over thirty years and wants more, there is a problem.  Another related issue is that couples should abide by their agreement in terms of number of children. The society is bad today because of the kind of marriages we have in society, but the families of born again children of God should be different.  We can only be different, if we remain committed to godliness.

All the Ten Keys to happy marriage, 50 keys to happy home has no meaning once you miss the point from the beginning.  I don't know about you, but my bible say God hates Divorce and no one that wants to see God can afford to do what God hates.  

You have to endure whatever pains you meet in marriage with love, forgiving and forbearing all offences for the sake of heaven.  The last time I check on marriage in the bible, God's word remaineth the same that God hates Divorce!

Other Traps of the Devil include the following:

• The devil want you to be married and still keep your old friends and acquaintances - which is a doorway to your eventual divorce.
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• The devil deceive some sisters not to be submissive and loyal to their husbands, thereby denying them of the natural love of such men, which would have made them happy in their home.

• The devil want you to be married and still share your emotional issues with your friends instead of your spouse. The devil want you to be married and yet be lusting after other women, girls big and small - which is not the will of God.

• The enemy wants you to be married and yet go back to your mother for advice all the time, instead of discussing and agreeing things with your spouse.

• The devil does not want our ladies to know that they can easily become the 'mother' of their husbands with a heart and attitude of love towards them. Ladies used to ask me if that is ever possible and my answer is YES.  

• If you prove to be a destiny helper to your husband, you have identified his calling in life and you are supporting him to succeed in his calling or profession, you will soon replace the mother in his heart and he will soon see only one woman in his life and that woman is you...

• The  devil does not want the sisters to know that no man outside your marriage can love you better.  There are marriages from God, and the devil use to trouble such marriages with all kind os tests and trials, but the couple must know it is the devil and resist himThe devil want our sister to continue to look for favour from men after their marriage...NO.  

• No more free lunch, somebody giving you lift from your house to your office and even dropping you off in the evening...You are opening your marriage for the devil to devour. Know you are now a married woman, pay for your transportation to and from work.Every unneccessary intimacy with any other man or woman outside of your spouce should STOP for good, otherwise, it is from these friends and old friends the devil will pull down the marriage

• Let no one tempt the devil, he is smarter than you.  Do not toy with sin, no matter how small and if you discover you have any kind of addiction before marriage, I counsel you to seek deliverance.  Don't marry with an addiction in your life, the marriage is in danger. 

• Whether the addiction is smoking, drinking, womanizing, drugs, pornography, stealing, fighting etc, please seek deliverance before you get married.  Seek deliverance or better still write to us and I can assure you that our prayer here will avail much for you by His grace.  Don't cover  up any sin - confess it and forsake the same and the Lord will show you mercy.

Consider:

The bible says what God has joined together, let no man put asunder.  The question is who joined you together in marriage - for those planning to get married, who is joining you together?  Is it God, which means Love or is it Lust, Money and Greed, Is it your parents? 

Are you getting married because you want to escape poverty or family trouble in your parents house? Are you getting married to him because he has money, wealth or family inheritance?  Are you getting married because you love children and the Mr right is nowhere to be found, you decided to help God by getting pregnant for a strange man? Make sure you are getting married for the right reasons.  You are ready for marriage, you love the person, God's approval has been sought and obtained etc.  Remember, the way you make your bed is how you will lie on it.

Friends, a believer in the Lord  should be a man or woman of broken spirit, meek and humble, hungry for righteousness, merciful and pure in heart.  You are patient, loving and full of joy always.  You are the salt and the light of the world to shine forth the truth in the word of God.  

You are free from all hypocrisy, all lust and all selfishness.  You are a peace loving man or woman of God, therefore be patient and prayerfully wait for the right person for you.

Don't think you can marry any body and live happily with that person.  There are thousands of men or woman, but only one is yours. The others  cannot manager your strict and disciplined lifestyle, so be patient.

When the issue of marriage or any other matter become difficult, please encourage yourself in the Lord as King David did, when they took away everything he had, including wives and children.  He remembered the goodness of God to him and inquired of the Lord, whether he should go after the warriors that destroyed his city and the Lord say YES!

Inner Beauty:

If pride is removed, the believing sister is the best thing that can happen to a bachelor planning to get married.  She is a great asset to any man who love God and want a peaceful life.  Her inner qualities are awesomely pleasant, as you don’t need to advice her on many things.

She has resolved many contentious issues of marriage on her own because of the influence of the Word of God in her life.  Issues that breed disagreement for young couples like wearing Trousers, praying and studying the Word daily, the kind of friends to keep and the word of her communication.

She understands that the coming together with her suitor must have the hand and blessing of God with the evidence of peace of mind on both sides.  She understands that marriage is responsibility and hard work.  She understands that she will make the man “complete” as it were and so there should be no need for competition.  She knows too well that each one of the man and woman has assigned responsibility from the Almighty God.

Prayer: She also understands the place of prayer in marriage, especially when things are going on well.  Because, you don’t know who the enemies are, but you know that the chief enemy Satan is never happy with a happy home, the woman and the man must give themselves to prayer, separately and collective through the family alter

The list is endless.  She knows that the destiny of the marriage is in their hands and if they and only they will make it work. So, having dropped her spinsters’ jacket, she embraces hard work, diligence and prayers.  The lady know the time of free money is gone, free lift from home to office and back is gone.

Avoid self righteousness

Sisters, get excited, over seriousness does not make a person holy. It is the amount of the Word of God in you, the level of your compliance to the Word and the fear of God in you that makes you holy.

Let your face radiates the love of God. I am told some sisters are too strict, not permitting any jokes, no pranks and so the courtship looks like cat and mouse game from the onset. You have the peace of God inside; be friendly, humble and pleasant.  Let you joy radiate like a virus unto your admirers.

keep a simple lifestyle - Take your life easy, one step at a time. What really does men want in a woman?

What qualities of a virtuous women men wants 

1.  A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones - Proverbs 12:4 

2. A wise woman that builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down - Proverbs 14:1 

3. Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife - Proverbs 21:9 

4. She is hospitable to people far and near -  without grumbling 1 Peter 4:9 

5. She is a lover of God and people, not a lover of money - For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs - 1 Timothy 6:10  

6. Humble and submissive woman - A woman who is opinionated and is able to make decisions on her own is attractive, but she must still be submissive unto the husband. She should be teachable and willing to cooperate with the husband when important decisions are to be taken.

7. She is straight forward and a home builder - A woman that is open minded and not one that hides her information from the husband.  A hard working woman, compassionate and caring is always better than the women that argue and quarrel on every little issue.  A wise woman that will live happily with the husband and assist him in raising godly children.

Love in Marriage

God is love, and He is the perfect source of information on how to love others.  This word, the bible shows us His mind and intention in everything.  This is why I am looking at what the Lord considers important in the love relationship between a man and his wife in marriage.

God designed marriage to be a great experience for man.  He asked the man to separate from his parents and be joined in love with his wife in a new home and marriage, different from that of their parents.  The bible says “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’ ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’So they are no longer two, but one flesh. 

The wonderful God issued a warning that what He (God) has joined together, let no one separate.” Mark 10:9-6  Love is important in marriage for the peace and progress of the home – the couple and the children.  It should be sacrificial and forbearing.

The Lord ordained that "Wives, should submit to your own husbands as they do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.

In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. The man should be content and happy with his wife, he should rejoice in the wife of his youth and be intoxicated with her love."  Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor. If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken." (Proverbs 5:18-19, Ecclesiastes 4:9-12)

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