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Men and women are in classes.  A man marries a woman of his class if he wants the marriage to endure and succeed.  Any time you see a mismatch, there’s going to be a problem, except there is a purposeful “push” on the lesser one to upgrade his/her status.

As men are in sizes, so their taste of the opposite sex differs.  I had a friend in school who will always tell me he like them “big” and years after I met his wife and as expected, she was “very heavy”.  Can I shock you, I remember a white guy who says he does not even know how to handle a big lady.  

They are very complex for him and months later when his wife visited, she was very slim and the type Nigerians will call “Lekwa”.

Some men love to marry young girls rather than ladies.  For reasons best known to them, they prefer girls in the university rather than working-class girls with means of livelihood. So, when they are ready to marry, you see them arranging flowers upon flowers looking for young to give. 

Such men pride themselves to have nurtured their wives from a tender age, watched them develop feminine muscles (curves) and mature into full women and mothers.

Women who are comfortable are known to be arrogant and proud, but that should not be the portion of a believing daughter of Zion.  You can enjoy your comfort with modesty.  You must not be like the world or talk like worldly ladies. Let your difference show in your friendly and humble approach, respect and of other people and their opinion.

The search for Respect: - Over time, I discovered that the fear of the unknown and desire for a respectful lady, who will be teachable are the major reasons why some men go for younger girls or even those in the village.
It is difficult to see how that improves the welfare conditions of the man but it shows how much men value the respect from their wives. In marrying the village girl, they are hoping they will find love and respect.

Men love to be respected by their wives.  This is a defining issue that is capable of defining his love towards the woman and nothing seem to be strong enough to replace the respect of a wife for her husband, not her money, not sex.

When a man feels the wife does not respect him, the man will hardly appreciate her.  A lot of guys admire big sisters in the church but are simply afraid of what those sisters will become when they are married.

Some have seen some bad instances when the big sister gets into the house and immediately “seizes power from the man” and competes with him on every aspect of life.  Instead of help, the guy gets competition, mockery and insults. The result is suffering in silence since God hates divorce and its not an option.

How does a prospective guy see you? 
They see a beautiful lady with confidence, but very hard and difficult to approach.  They see a lady whose mind is made up, on many issues, a person kind and independent-minded.  I hear some guys say that these ladies can hardly shift ground for their man on certain things either while in courtship or after marriage.

Rigid and frigid:  The believing sister is too rigid for some guys in the church.  Their lifestyle of secrecy and loneliness is boring as it is devoid of excitement.  Many of the big ladies pray to God for rich and comfortable men, whether they are church members or not.  Some may even marry unbelievers; so far the guy is comfortable.

So, fairly stable young men are despised because they don’t have good cars or live within the city centre. Another contentious issue is the type of wedding to organize.  Many of the so-called big girls want big and expensive society wedding that may force the young man to borrow. Their wedding must be elaborate to accommodate her interest, her family and endless friends.

Pride: - A believing sister is responsible for how people see her and the conclusions they make about her.  If you are not proud, show humility and respect your seniors etc  Let pride not be associated with you as a daughter of Zion for God hates the proud.

Let the pride of achievement, success, qualification, position, riches and wealth be removed from you.  All the attitude of “Are you sure you can marry me”, Where are you coming from”, You are too small for me” or “Am I not too big for you?” are what people call pride.  It could be the pride of the heart or physical pride. Think about it!

Inner Beauty:
If pride is removed, the believing sister is the best thing that can happen to a bachelor planning to get married.  She is a great asset to any man who loves God and wants a peaceful life.  Her inner qualities are awesomely pleasant, as you don’t need to advise her on many things.

She has resolved many contentious issues of marriage on her own because of the influence of the Word of God in her life.  Issues that breed disagreement for young couples like wearing Trousers, praying and studying the Word daily, the kind of friends to keep and the word of her communication.

She understands that coming together with her suitor must have the hand and blessing of God with the evidence of peace of mind on both sides.  She understands that marriage is a responsibility and hard work.  She understands that she will make the man “complete” as it were and so there should be no need for competition.  She knows too well that each one of the man and woman has assigned responsibility from the Almighty God.

Prayer: She also understands the place of prayer in marriage, especially when things are going on well.  Because, you don’t know who the enemies are, but you know that the chief enemy Satan is never happy with a happy home, the woman and the man must give themselves to prayer, separately and collected through the family alter

The list is endless.  She knows that the destiny of the marriage is in their hands and if they and only they will make it work. So, having dropped her spinsters’ jacket, she embraces hard work, diligence and prayers.  The lady knows the time of free money is gone, free lift from home to office and back is gone.

Avoid self-righteousness
Sisters, get excited, over seriousness does not make a person holy. It is the amount of the Word of God in you, the level of your compliance to the Word and the fear of God in you that makes you holy.

Let your face radiates the love of God. I am told some sisters are too strict, not permitting any jokes, no pranks and so the courtship looks like cat and mouse game from the onset. You have the peace of God inside; be friendly, humble and pleasant.  Let you joy radiate like a virus unto your admirers.

keep a simple lifestyle - Take your life easy, one step at a time. What really does men want in a woman?

What men want in a woman:
1. Every man is looking for a woman who is confident and bold to spend his life with. Beauty is great, but a wise and intelligent lady with a lot of skills and flavour will attract real men.  One thing about marriage is that you should pray top meet godly men, who are ready for marriage.  A godly man who is not ready for marriage will hardly see the 'Gold' that a godly and virtuous sister is.  And until he is ready for marriage, he would not make the necessary distinction between two women.

2.  Men are looking also for destiny helpers, especially those in the low and middle glass categories.  Destiny helpers are unique people specially meant for you.  He will understand your weaknesses and they will mean nothing to him.  The way for you to know, that the guy is the destiny helper meant for you, there will be a compatibility factor that will unite both of you, there is something in you, skill or ability that will support his course.

3. Men are not looking for a humble and God-fearing woman to build a home with. A woman that is ready to submit and cooperate with him in family building a godly home. A woman that will be with the husband in the spirit and in the physical.  A wise home builder, patient and hard-working woman.

4. One of the important requirement of a godly man is a spirit-filled sister.  Many sisters are born again, but only a few are filled with Holy Ghost baptism.  So they walk and talk like unbelievers.  Sisters are encouraged to carry themselves with honour everywhere they go and behave born again children of God.  It's always unfortunate for a sister to mishandle her in a way that people will start asking if she is not a Christian.

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    1. There are many ways to approach the issue.
      You need to pray simple, but effective prayers always.
      You may need to pray at night 12am to 3.00am, if you can tarry up to 3 hrs, otherwise as long as you can.
      Command fire on their alters and sacrifices
      Command the attacker to be silenced by the Blood of Jesus.
      Command their arrows and mantra (Enchantments) to backfire to them- Bible says whosoever shall dig a pit shall fall into it. This prayer is important if they are attacking your health or blessing - Let it backfire!
      Cover yourself in the blood of Jesus

      If you need more assistance, lets know!


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