I AM TIRED OF BEING SINGLE.........I want to Marry and have my own Children - Jesus help me!

He's thinking:   Will she play the Boss...?

...And she's asking  Is this young guy serious?


Born-again Christian need wisdom when she is ready for marriage.  You also need the right attitude, humble spirit, friendly disposition and a heart full of expectation.

When you consider yourself as a daughter of Zion, then there are a lot of things Jesus can do for you. Your Lord Jesus desires that you know Him and His ways, He expects that you are Word-filled, faith-filled and friendly.

The Lord will also expect you to be willing and obedient to His words in marriages, to obey and keep the ordinances of marriage.  Your marriage and every other marriage that will succeed must have structure and boundaries for each person in the family. He will expect you to seek information and knowledge about marriage and get familiar with the requirement for successful marriages.  

When you have done all these, your appreciation of the institution called marriage will rise and you will on your own begin to plan your life and make the necessary amendments and changes that are necessary for the success of your marriage.

He is your Helper

When the Lord sees your effort at getting married and the amendments and your expectations, He will simply give you a humble spirit, Spirit of love, wisdom etc that will make you 'correct for any good man to marry.  Jesus will equip you with the word of God, wisdom and excellent spirit that will turn you into a 'Gold Fish', that a man discovers...and he would give thanks to God.

Realize that in Christ, all things are yours.  Time is not necessarily a barrier, so delay is not denial. A believer that wants to get married to another believer, working-class or a businessman should examine herself, attitude, beliefs, conducts, and be Spirit-filled and correct.

There are sisters like that.  When you meet them, you wish you were not married.  The same goes for brothers.  

A humble and gentle Spirit will be a good report for a bachelor or spinster.  It is not your beauty or qualifications.  So many are handsome and pretty, well educated and skilful, but what is the state of their heart? Dirty and polluted.

Acquaint with the Word, Develop Skills

The transformation that Jesus Christ gives you through His Word, will give you the right knowledge, attitude and belief.  It will not only attract you to the right spouse sooner than later, but it will also sustain you in the marriage.  So make sure you get yourself to a good start, including some cooking skills...so that you can once in a while tantalize your husband with mouth-watering meals. 

You are not expected to have a boyfriend while waiting on the Lord for a husband, otherwise, you are still not ready.  You should control your emotions and reserve yourself for that man, life is more than sex.  You will also caution your emotions to keep quiet when the man arrives so that your excitement will not push you to fall in for sex before marriage.

Restrain yourself from going to bed with him. If he is a believer, he would not insist - for there is no born-again brother that will want to defile the bed before marriage.

Remember, beloved sisters:

1. Depending on the man, unbelievers want a good woman, who is loyal and submissive to them, but believers want a godly woman, who fears the Lord. An average person wants a working-class woman, who is humble and teachable.  But, a rich guy or highly promising man does not care whether you are working or not, he wants a beautiful and humble woman, faithful and content with what she has.

2. A businessman's first choice is a business-minded lady, who understands the language of money and who knows how to make money.  He is not bothered by much education.  He knows he can trust you to cover up for him in his shop or business. He knows you will not be wasteful if you are business-minded. An agro businessman will prefer a farmer or a lady with knowledge in modern farming, like rearing of snails, Chickens and honey farming.

3. If you want to marry a man of God, be ready for war. I will explain, what I mean.  A Pastor, prophet and Evangelist's requirement is holiness and the ability to pray and intercede.  He wants a faithful woman, humble and simple.  A complex woman cannot marry a Pastor. You must be genuinely born again, and ready to live holy, otherwise the marriage will have a lot of trouble. 

4. All men want a woman who will be faithful and submissive. Every man wants a woman with godly virtues, loving, caring and hard-working.  A wise woman that can relate well with people.  I am explaining these issues so that sisters can make a better choice of husband.  You need to consider compatibility with the man.  There must be things that the two of you are known for.

What to do:

Get Busy Working for God
I was and still, am very busy working for God. I found that when I was busy working, I didn't have time to feel sorry for myself because I had no one. If you are a Christian, you want your mate to see you busy working for the Kingdom. 

Let Him Find and Pursue You
He that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord (Proverbs 18:22). If you want your husband to have favour, let him find you. Let him pursue you. It’s okay to show an interest, but these days, the art of pursuit is lost. Women these days will ask a man for his digits, ask him out and pay the way. No! No! Ladies…God created man to be a hunter. Hunting and pursuit is innate in his makeup. If you are doing all the hunting, you've taken away what God created him to do. 

Furthermore, if you are constantly pursuing, how do you know for sure that he’s just not in it for the ride? Let him pursue! Let him be what God created him to be. I've heard women say “well he’s taking too long”. Please understand and listen when I say that God wants man to take the lead in relationships. He wants the man to pace the relationship. When women take leadership roles, we can expect disorder in our relationships because we are out of God’s order.

Work on Yourself
What are you doing to make yourself valuable in a relationship? What are you bringing to the table? Strive to improve yourself in education, career, finances and in your walk with God. If you want a Godly man, then you must become a Godly woman. If you want someone debt-free, then you should become debt-free. You attract what you are. 

Can you cook? The old adage, "the quickest way to a man's heart is through his stomach" is true. Just as man was created to hunt and lead, women were created to nurture. Feeding your family is a part of nurturing. Learn to cook the basics and then expand your skills. Take this time to prepare so that when he is presented, he will see your worth.

Don't Waste Time on Relationships That Aren't Going Anywhere
If you know this person is not husband material, let him go!   God will not send you someone if your hands are already full. Why should he? Empty your hands, release those moribund relations,  so you can fully receive what God has. Don't waste your time.

Pray for your husband. Whoever and wherever he is, start praying for him now. Pray that God will make him what he needs to be for you and to make you what he needs as a helpmate. Pray for his career, his decisions, his finances, and his relationship with God.

Keys things to know about Marriage 
The Christian family and home is a covenant relationship between God, the man, and the wife. the couple is submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.  As a married man or woman, the devil will test your faith, your willpower, and your fear of God.  

The devil will test your faith with disagreements, arguments and bitter rumours about your lifestyle or your family etc.  

A man you cannot submit to, don't marry.  Submission is a major requirement for Christian marriage.

Do not marry under duress.  Don't marry because you think the time is getting late for you.  If you feel that way, you should do the knocking prayer, which the Lord talked about in  Mathew 7:7.

Passionate Love

You have to love your husband passionately, as a born-again lady, so make sure you are in love before you talk about marriage.  You may have faith that can move any mountain, but if you cannot show love to your husband, there will be a problem. You are to love your spouse passionately and earnestly since love covers a multitude of sins.  

The scriptures say that the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. So, do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

 Vow of Chastity
A woman should conclude some issues by herself, before marriage.  One of such issues is the case of infidelity.  No child of God should allow the error of adultery after marriage.  There are times when it takes a couple several years to have their first child.  Such does not justify adultery.  The way to approach delay in childbearing is to go for a comprehensive medical test, to identify weak systems in the body,  Every weakness should be treated and then you command your body to be fruitful.


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