GOOD WIFE......... ..She Does you Good all your Life, A Blessing from God



The topic of a good wife is an ever interesting topic. That's because of the importance of a woman in a man's life.  A good wife is indeed a gift from God though the man may not know then.  

A good wife is a God fearing, humble and hard working woman, who understands marriage covenants and she is willing to abide by the word of God concerning marriage.  It is not an easy task for women to humble themselves under their husband, who the Lord has made leaders over them, but as many women as will obey the Lord in the area of marriage will find happiness and joy.

The role of a wife in marriage is a key one that once an error is made, the future of such a man, his faith life, business or career and even his longevity may be affected.  The bible have wonderful words to describe a godly woman to one is a help-mate to her husband, whom the husband trust and rely on.

The value of a good wife can never be quantified. She is the closest friend to her husband and when she continues in her good ways, she will take-the-place of the husband's mother. No one else can take the place of a wife in the home, the husband's mother cannot, sister cannot, Aunt cannot and no House-help can. 

This is why a precious wife must be one that fears God and loves her husband, and values God and her husband more than all worldly riches and goods.

Christianity is more spiritual than physical.  

The bible talks about a good wife as a blessing to her husband and the entire family because she will eventually put her home in order, guide her children aright.  Her strength comes from her fellowship with the Lord.  She loves the Lord and the things of the kingdom.  She fears the Lord and honours Him in her daily living.  

This is why the bible says of her  “Many women have done wonderful things, but she’ve outclassed them all”  Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades, but a godly woman, who can find?
The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God.  The bible talks about a good wife as one that does the husband good all the days of his life. Beauty is good, but certainly not the most important consideration when searching for a wife.

The bible also talks about a good wife as a precious jewel, hard to find,  and worth far more than diamonds.  Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to regret it. She is never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long.

Marrying a bad wife or a wrong woman is akin to entering into a life long bondage. The reason is that you are not permitted to divorce her, rather you have to pray for her transformation and continue till she changes.

A child of God can marry a wrong woman, but the truth must be told, that whosoever marries the daughter of Satan should be ready for spiritual battles and attacks.  Two of you are not going to be on the same page in many issues.  Your perception will never be the same and there will be sharp disagreements due to that gap.

She will be carnal, playing the world, while you're spiritual.  The man will have to  learn how to balance issues at home and continually pray for the woman and the family. If you happen to be a preacher of the word, get ready...the devil will surely attack you in different ways for marrying his daughter.

That may partly explain why a Preacher/Pastor can be preaching the Word accurately and yet be in bondage of a bad woman at home.  Some angry women have scattered their husband's church without reason...And the Pastor must endure and still love her to the end.

Brief description of a good wife - From the bible!

I. The godly wife is a blessing to her family.
A. She instructs her children by her teaching and by her godly example.
1. She displays a love for her husband and for her children. Tit. 2:4.
2. She is considerate, pure, and is submissive to her own husband.
Tit. 2:5.

B. The Godly wife teaches her children to love God and to serve Him faithfully.

C. She is industrious and concerned about her family comfort. Prov. 31:10-12.
1. Her personal habits are full or energy. Prov. 31:13-22.
2. Self-denial is the godly wife's characteristic as she follows the Lord.
3. She works willingly with her hands.
4. She is ever careful of the interests of her husband. v. 23.
5. She looks after her household with untiring energy. v. 24-27.

D. She  fears the Lord, and she is a crown to her husband - Prov. 12:4; 31:28.

E. The Godly mother will be BLESSED. 
1. Having lived in the fear of God and having honored God with the fruits of her labors, she shall rejoice in time to come.
2. Her children will reverence her.
3. Her husband will praise her.
4. The Lord will reward her.

The Devil waits at the gate of Marriage:

Though we are in a modern world, but the devil is the same enemy that tempted Eve and overthrew the plan of God for Adam and Eve.  The devil knows that if a man or woman gets marriage wrong, the plan to hinder and frustrate that person's life becomes easy.

So, the devil will naturally present the wrong women to prospective young men, especially those with divine mandate to fulfil.  The devil will like to pair worldly women with believers, so he can put confusion in their midst later in life and break the marriage. 

If a woman loves the world, she will tend towards the things of this life, and be pleasure driven.  Such a woman does not care about the word of God, neither is she interested in obeying the word.  For such a girl, with little temptation, she will fall and do the bidding of the devil, sometimes without knowing who is speaking to her. 

That is why marrying a wrong wife could be a life long battle for God to touch and change her.  This fact is not known to many young men entering marriage.  They have to look beyond beauty, eloquence of speech and intelligence.  They should know that marrying a wrong woman automatically enrolls a man into a life of adversity, a life of struggle and endless battles.

A Christian/Believer should know that the Holy Spirit will be happy to direct them, even to reveal who their fiancĂ© is in the spirit. The ability to discern the right woman for marriage is one of the duties of the Holy Spirit to us.  He is the Spirit of discernment, He knows all things.

Young ladies may appear simple and innocent, yet full of trouble if they are not born again and living for God. While it is difficult for the man to change a wrong wife, a woman in darkness can manipulatively change the man's life.  A wrong women can convert a man of destiny (Eagles) into a vulture, she can even convert a Prophet to a Parrot.

Way Forward:

Beauty is good, but not the most important thing in marriage. The virtues of goodness, hard work, fidelity, trustworthiness, charity and respect etc are worthy of first consideration. 

Solution: -  When the mistake has been committed, the man must be patient and ready to pray her out of darkness.  God hates divorce and God can do all things, including changing the characters of any man or woman.  

This is a battle that requires wisdom and fire of God to fight.  It gets tough when she is on assignment to bring the man down and stop his destiny fulfillment. What happens then is that she will fight every step to stop the man from fulfilling his destiny.

It is a terrible battle because the wife is really not the enemy, the devil is. The prayer of  “fall and die” may not be helpful in this case, unless you have understanding because the woman is part of you, and the mother of your children.

It is a problem that requires wisdom to overcome. Pastors and other workers of grace who make this mistake suffer long in the wilderness of life.  This error MUST BE AVOIDED by youths of today, who are single.


Friends,  Jesus is coming back soon.  If you have not known Him, I plead with you to surrender your heart and troubles to Him now.  It is a prayer that should come from your heart. 

You have to confess your sins to God in prayer and ask for His forgiveness, believe He has forgiven you.  Then ask Jesus to come into your heart, and be your Lord and Saviour.  Believe the Lord has also accepted your request and His Spirit is already inside your heart.

If you said that prayer from your heart, know for sure that you are BORN AGAIN, a new baby in Christ.  You have also received the gift of the Holy Spirit and the power to be the son or daughter of God.  

Congratulations, you're born again!

Watch a short video on this topic which explains it deeper. 

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  1. This really spoke deeply tome as if God was revealing his desire to me.


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