AVOIDING ADULTERY IN MARRIAGE...........Is possible for the Diligent and wise!


Adultery in marriage usually leads to serious problems, many of which end up in divorce.  Currently, infidelity is the highest cause of divorce worldwide.

This simple advice will benefit young couples, who are still learning to live together, love and appreciate one another.  It's important for them to know that once the Trust between the husband and wife is broken, many people never recovers from the short and to love their spouses like before, they may remain in the marriage.


Young people should be spiritually and mentally ready for marriage before they venture into it.  One of the signs that a man or woman is spiritually ready for marriage is the decision of such a person to reserve him/herself for a good while praying for the right man or woman.  God sees this attitude of men and rewards it always.

Another sign that you are ready to get committed to one person and move on in life is the ability to make personal adjustments that will make you fit for a father or mother, which you are aspiring to be.  Your ability to cut-off those youthful behaviours, club going, partying and always being the company of promiscuous friends...

Basically, everyone knows his or her weak areas, work on them, don't be shy or sweep your weak areas under the carpet, else it would rise up in the future to work against your marriage. If they are spiritual, seed advice from your Pastor.  Open it up to God for help and make a personal commitment to change.  For once there is a  will on your side, there will also be a way out.

Decide never to be in a hurry or get impatient.  This is usually the trick of the devil to make people marry the wrong persons and have regrets in the future.  If you are a Christian, marrying an unbeliever is not an option.  If you reduce your standards to marry him or her, get ready for a running battle in the future.

Marry the person you love and that loves you.  One secret to marrying a good wife or husband for Christians is your getting very serious with the things of God, the business of God - Soul winning and giving happiness to God and to His work, then pray with all faith and confidence that you have received the answers.


In addition to making these changes to your lifestyle in readiness for marriage, the man and woman in marriage should MINDFUL of the following behaviours.

1. Do not make any opposite sex outside your wife ...your close confidant, with whom you discuss intimate matters. Any married person that discusses his/her family issues with friends and colleagues will surely destroy the marriage one day.

2. Avoid secret meetings with the opposite sex, and where it is necessary, go with your spouse.over familiarity with colleagues.

3. Avoid unnecessary familiarity and play with friends and colleagues.  Also avoid unnecessary body contact and huge, after marriage.

4. Avoid accusing your spouse in the presence of a third party - Friends and colleagues, because once they discover you are not happy in marriage, the mischievous ones among them will see it as an opportunity to show you fake love and care, the kind you are lacking at home.

5. If you must discuss your marital issue with a close brother in the Lord or Sister, Pastor, make sure the person is of your same-sex.  Don't discuss with your Pastor, except on a counselling day, when their team is with them. 

6. Be proud of our spouse always, when he or she is there or not.  Let your friends and relatives know you love your spouse.  Say 'I love you' to our spouse always -Do you know why?  Love grows with nourishment.  If you nourish and appreciate your love affairs regularly, the faster it grows.

7. Avoid collecting unsolicited gifts and favours from the opposite sex.  Avoid free ride to and from the office by the same person every day. If the favour continues for long, intimacy could develop that could bring a fall, after all the man is not a father Christmas.

8. Don't lust for evil things in your heart. Trust in the Lord for your promotion and work hard.  Don't try to promote yourself by compromising your faith and marriage.

9. Never you think that the other man or woman is better than your spouse.  That is an error that promotes adultery.

10. Direct all your sexual fantasy and emotions towards your spouse and nobody else.  Be contempt with what is your own.

11. Men especially should avoid turning back to re-examine a lady's appearance or beauty/figure as such act registers the picture in his memory, which the devil will use later to tempt him to fall.

12. Make God-fearing people your friends.  A single sister with a single sister, married woman with a married woman.  Married women should be careful in discussing her marriage with a divorcee.

Fear God

I am amazed at people who do not fear the Lord or have regards for His word. How would you survive temptation on all sides today, if you don't fear the Lord.  How long will you be faithful to your spouse and God if you don't have boundaries of behaviour well set and religiously obeyed? You must have strict spiritual and physical borders if you want to remain faithful to God and your spouse.  There must be some personal DOs AND DON'Ts that guide everyone in marriage. As a child of God and you must insist on biblical standards, else your fall is just a matter of time.  

There are things you do not need to see or touch, there are conversations you do not need to enter into; there are even faces you do not need to look at, talk less of looking into those eyes and admiring them.

Brethren, as important as we need grace, we must be determined to resist every temptation, even to the point of blood.  Joseph's resistance landed him in jail, but God honoured him there and took him from that prison, straight to the palace.

Prove you are Born Again
Infidelity is the test every married man or woman must pass today if they are Christians.  Once you fall to the opposite sex, the chances are that you may fall again and again until God delivers you from that valley.  Do you know why...Because the devil will always use the point of your weakness to tempt you over and over again.

Let us surrender to Jesus Christ because there is nothing good in us, sinners and request for His grace and mercy to see us through our journey on earth.  It will not be by your human wisdom, approach or other efforts, the devil is wiser than man, you must surrender to Jesus the weaknesses of your life and exchange them with the image and likeness of Jesus.  Seek more of Him that created heaven and earth, and it will be well with you!


Beloved, there is no temptation that you cannot overcome if you are determined. Ensure your sexual drive is moderated and effectively under your control, else...No amount of precaution will help you.

You should be in firm control of your body, and bring it under subjection to the word of God, otherwise, the end-time spirit of seduction and lust could sweep the person away into avoidable error.  You can also make a vow of Chastity with the Lord and ask Him to keep you holy in conversation, thought and actions.

Married women, please be weary of mischievous men, who compliment women and tell them sweet nothing compliments in the office, and in the neighbourhood.  Gently ask them to compliment their own wife. 


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